Hautes-Alpes Solidaires, Écologiques et Citoyennes : Hautes-Alpes Solidaires, Écologiques et Citoyennes : BazaR

Visualisation du fichier CSV pour l'export des fiches de type : Agenda - Total des fiches : 101

"datetime_create","datetime_latest","Nom de l'événement'","Description","Type d'événement","Début de l'événement","Fin de l'événement"
07/02/2021 16:19:19,07/02/2021 16:19:19,"Réunion Plénière #9","En visio
Lien de la visio à venir","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-02-19T20:00:00+01:00","2021-02-19T21:30:00+01:00"
07/02/2021 16:41:17,07/02/2021 16:41:17,"Réunion Groupe ""Projet""","Réunion du groupe de travail sur le Projet du collectif","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-09T20:00:00+01:00","2021-02-09T22:00:00+01:00"
07/02/2021 16:42:29,07/02/2021 16:42:29,"Réunion Groupe ""Veille / Médias""","","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-09T18:00:00+01:00","2021-02-09T20:00:00+01:00"
11/02/2021 13:23:47,11/02/2021 13:23:47,"Réunion Groupe d'Animation","","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-11T18:00:00+01:00","2021-02-11T20:00:00+01:00"
14/02/2021 18:09:51,14/02/2021 18:09:51,"Réunion n° 3 Groupe Projet","","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-16T20:00:00+01:00","2021-02-16T22:00:00+01:00"
22/02/2021 19:45:08,22/02/2021 19:45:08,"Réunion n°4 groupe Projet","","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-23T20:00:00+01:00","2021-02-23T22:00:00+01:00"
28/02/2021 09:10:42,28/02/2021 09:10:42,"Réunion Groupe d'Animation","","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-01T18:00:00+01:00","2021-03-01T20:00:00+01:00"
02/03/2021 22:15:03,02/03/2021 22:15:03,"Réunion Zoom GT com / Tech","Réunion du GT com / tech
Avancement sur la communication
stratégie réseaux sociaux.
Lien à venir","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-05T10:00:00+01:00","2021-03-05T12:00:00+01:00"
03/03/2021 17:42:34,03/03/2021 17:42:34,"Réunion Zoom signataires de GAP de l'appel"," Participer à la réunion Zoom
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82234058392?pwd=ZzJwMmdaT2hJN2tpV1JSOExGVTdvdz09

","Événément local (canton...)","2021-03-03T18:30:00+01:00","2021-03-03T20:30:00+01:00"
04/03/2021 11:27:29,04/03/2021 11:27:29,"Réunion Plénière #10","lien Zoom
Participer à la réunion
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87349669128?pwd=WndBQWlES3BtbC92dlQyQ1MycWZQZz09

ID de réunion : 873 4966 9128
Code secret : 457329
Une seule touche sur l’appareil mobile
+33170950103,,87349669128#,,,,*457329# France
+33170950350,,87349669128#,,,,*457329# France

Composez un numéro en fonction de votre emplacement
+33 1 7095 0103 France
+33 1 7095 0350 France
+33 1 8699 5831 France
+33 1 7037 2246 France
+33 1 7037 9729 France","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-03-05T20:00:00+01:00","2021-03-05T22:30:00+01:00"
08/03/2021 09:10:02,08/03/2021 09:10:02,"Réunion Guillestrois-Queyras","à Guillestre,
plus d'infos : departementales2021-gq@framalistes.org
","Événément local (canton...)","2021-03-09T14:30:00+01:00","2021-03-09T16:30:00+01:00"
09/03/2021 22:28:42,09/03/2021 22:28:42,"Découverte de la Fabrique et du site Internet","Bonjour à tous,

Afin de mieux coopérer et construire notre projet départemental, nous avons mis en place plusieurs outils numériques.

La fabrique qui nous permet de discuter, d'échanger, de partager nos agendas et nos tâches, et de mettre en commun les ressources (fichiers, documents, framapads...) nécessaire à la construction du projet

Le site internet pour communiquer sur l'extérieur, avoir accès aux ressources, documents et informations en un coup d'oeil.

Attention, afin de ne pas diluer l'information entre plusieurs plate-forme, La fabrique se substitura au Framateam utilisé jusqu'à présent.

Afin de présenter ces outils à celles et ceux qui en ont besoin, c'est à dire vous montrer comment ils fonctionnent, les différentes options, modules etc... nous vous proposons une session d'information sur le créneau de votre choix la semaine prochaine :

Mercredi 10 mars à 10h30

Jeudi 11 mars à 19h00

Merci de vous inscrire sur le créneau que nous préférez :

https://framadate.org/mlw3j3HWk6rJl4Dd
Le groupe com-tech

Lien de connexion : https://jitsi.hivane.net/DecouverteFabriqueInternet
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-10T10:30:00+01:00","2021-03-10T11:30:00+01:00"
09/03/2021 22:29:16,09/03/2021 22:29:16,"Découverte de la Fabrique et du site Internet","Bonjour à tous,

Afin de mieux coopérer et construire notre projet départemental, nous avons mis en place plusieurs outils numériques.

Le site internet pour communiquer sur l'extérieur, avoir accès aux ressources, documents et informations en un coup d'oeil.

Attention, afin de ne pas diluer l'information entre plusieurs plate-forme, La fabrique se substitura au Framateam utilisé jusqu'à présent.

Mercredi 10 mars à 10h30

Jeudi 11 mars à 19h00

Merci de vous inscrire sur le créneau que nous préférez :

https://framadate.org/mlw3j3HWk6rJl4Dd
Le groupe com-tech

Lien de connexion : https://jitsi.hivane.net/DecouverteFabriqueInternet
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-11T19:00:00+01:00","2021-03-11T20:00:00+01:00"
11/03/2021 14:22:20,11/03/2021 14:22:20,"Action sur Gap","Avis aux gapençais, samedi 13 mars, rendez-vous à 10h00 devant la liseuse, on fera signer l'appel et on annoncera la réunion à 14h le même jour au parc Giveaudan. ","Événément local (canton...)","2021-03-13T10:00:00+01:00","2021-03-13T10:00:00+01:00"
11/03/2021 20:34:11,11/03/2021 20:34:11,"Rencontre gapençaise","parc Givaudan","Événément local (canton...)","2021-03-13T14:00:00+01:00","2021-03-13T17:00:00+01:00"
12/03/2021 21:32:02,12/03/2021 21:32:02,"Réunion du canton de Serres","Venez rencontrer les autres signataires du canton à la Faurie, et discuter des problématiques locales à intégrer au projet. Si vous souhaitez participer et que vous n'avez pas reçu d'invitation par mail, contacter le collectif contact@collectifcitoyen05.fr","Événément local (canton...)","2021-03-21T14:00:00+01:00","2021-03-21T16:00:00+01:00"
15/03/2021 14:21:11,15/03/2021 14:21:11,"GT Candidats à la candidature","GT Candidats à la candidature

Contacter [[mailto:pimprenelleb@laposte.net Pimprenelle]] pour toute question ou pour vous inscrire à ce groupe de travail.

**Ordre du jour : **

1-Le point sur les candidatures et les actions dans les différents cantons
2-Organisation pour continuer : Création de Groupes d'Animation Locaux? Quelle articulation avec le groupe plénière? Faut-il créer un canal de diffusion propre aux groupes locaux, si oui, comment ?
3-Préparation de la réunion plénière du 19 mars.
4-Questions diverses.","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-15T18:30:00+01:00","2021-03-15T20:00:00+01:00"
15/03/2021 16:45:38,15/03/2021 16:45:38,"Réunion GT Projet","Rappel rapide des consignes, présentation des fiches terminées, engagement des participants sur les thèmes,

Le lien de la visio : https://us02web.zoom.us/j/3088386579?pwd=ZnBjcWxBNjEvaWJHcStzTm5BdFlVQT09
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-09T20:00:00+01:00","2021-02-09T22:00:00+01:00"
16/03/2021 20:16:10,16/03/2021 20:16:10,"Réunion GT Projet","Attention changement de lien en dernière minute :
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87804487891?pwd=QlpFcXBsYTlBNjI4aTdvNXB3czJvUT09

**__Proposition d'ordre du jour :__**

- Point sur les fiches pretes
- Modalités d’envoi au signataires? regroupement sous un chapeau (sujets proches ou en lien)
- Proposition d’un retour semaine suivante par visio consacrée au “chapeau”, pour discuter et intégrer en directe les amendements (rejoint la proposition de Madeleine)
- Trous dans la raquettes, que faire
- Rétroplanning pressant, début d’envoi dès cette semaine, fin d’envoi semaine prochaine
- Communication associée","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-16T20:00:00+01:00","2021-03-16T22:00:00+01:00"
19/03/2021 19:56:41,19/03/2021 19:56:41,"Plénière #11","Plénière du collectif

[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 Lien zoom de la prochaine réunion]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-03-19T20:00:00+01:00","2021-03-19T22:00:00+01:00"
21/03/2021 09:53:06,21/03/2021 09:53:06,"Marche pour une vraie loi climat","28 MARS 2021 : MARCHE POUR UNE VRAIE LOI CLIMAT

Hautes-Alpes : VéloRution… mon vélo ET mon train !

Déjà 329 organisations ont répondu à l’appel unitaire.

Le projet de loi « Climat et résilience », discuté à l’Assemblée nationale, est le dernier texte du quinquennat consacré à l’environnement. En l’état, il est très loin de l’ambition requise pour répondre à l’urgence écologique et atteindre les objectifs que la France s’est fixée. De nombreuses organisations, mais aussi le Haut Conseil pour le Climat, le Conseil national de la transition écologique et le Conseil économique, social et environnemental l’ont affirmé à de nombreuses reprises.

Le gouvernement, après s’être renié sur de nombreux sujets et avoir été reconnu coupable d’inaction climatique, a mis de côté ou considérablement amoindri les propositions de la Convention citoyenne pour le climat que cette loi était censée reprendre.

Les député.es, qui débattront du projet de loi en séance plénière à partir du 29 mars, doivent à présent prendre leurs responsabilités, notamment :

En renforçant les articles du projet de loi dans le sens d’une plus grande ambition écologique, notamment s’agissant de la rénovation thermique des bâtiments, de la réglementation de la publicité et de l’utilisation des engrais azotés, du recours aux menus végétariens dans la restauration collective, de la lutte contre l’artificialisation des sols, de la limitation des vols intérieurs en avion ou la responsabilité climat des grandes entreprises.

En renforçant les articles du projet de loi dans le sens d’une meilleure prise en compte des aspects de justice sociale afin de rendre la transition écologique accessible à toutes et tous

Le 19 mars, dernier jour de l’examen du texte en commission, les jeunes pour le climat se mobiliseront. Le 28 mars, veille de l’examen du projet de loi, nous nous mobiliserons ensemble pour dénoncer son manque d’ambition et les manœuvres qui tentent de l’affaiblir, exiger une vraie Loi Climat à la hauteur de l’urgence écologique et défendre les mesures des 150 membres de la Convention citoyenne pour le Climat.

28 MARS DANS LES HAUTES-ALPES…VELORUTION ! pour une vraie loi climat

A la veille de l'entrée du texte de loi « climat et résilience » à l'Assemblée Nationale, nous tous, appelons les députées des Hautes-Alpes, Mme Pascale Boyer et Mme Claire Bouchet, à prendre leurs responsabilités lors de leur séance qui débutera le 29 mars. Après le mouvement des Gilets Jaunes, le président Emmanuel Macron avait décidé de créer la Convention Citoyenne pour le Climat pour proposer de manière plus démocratique des mesures pour la réduction des émissions de gaz à effet de serre. Le 28 février dernier, les membres de la CCC avaient attribué une note de 3,3/10 à l’action gouvernementale en réponse à leurs 149 mesures proposées.

Le projet de Loi Climat déposé par le gouvernement est loin d’être à la hauteur de l’urgence écologique avec un manque d’ambition écologique et la justice sociale, pour que la « transition écologique » soit accessible à toutes et à tous.

Le train symbole de résilience…mon vélo ET mon train !

Les conséquences de l’urgence climatique se font sentir quotidiennement (canicules à répétition, sécheresses ici ou crues et inondations ailleurs, ouragan dévastateurs …), de plus en plus de citoyens conscients de ces enjeux souhaitent modifier leurs modes de déplacement. De plus en plus nombreux ils se tournent vers le vélo et souhaitent pouvoir l’associer au train que ce soit dans leurs déplacements quotidiens (domicile / travail) ou dans leurs loisirs.

Alors que la région et le département communiquent sur leur volonté de développer le tourisme « écoresponsable », « vert » en développant les voies vertes, de favoriser les mobilités douces ou encore de protéger l’environnement, nous disposons d’un atout majeur dans les Hautes-Alpes pour une « vraie résilience » avec la ligne ferroviaire qui irrigue notre département le long de la Durance : Utilisons là ! Défendons là !

· 10h : VéloRution entre la gare de Chorges et la gare de la Bâtie Neuve (9kms)

· 12h30 : Pique-nique /débat sur le quai de la gare de la Bâtie Neuve

Le collectif Adieu Glacier 05 vous invite, citoyennes et citoyens, associations, syndicats, partis politiques…, à participer et à signer l’appel à cette journée de mobilisation.

Pour tous retours et signatures, merci d’envoyer un mail à : adieuglacier05@gmail.com

Adieu Glacier 05
","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-03-28T10:00:00+02:00","2021-03-28T16:00:00+02:00"
21/03/2021 10:02:23,21/03/2021 10:02:23,"Rassemblement gapençais journée droit au logement","Devant le conseil départemental à 14h

**Journée européenne d’action pour le logement
**
Dans 21 pays d’Europe, journée d’action pour le droit au logement, l’arrêt des expulsions et contre le logement cher !

Dans 21 pays d’Europe, partout en France le 27 mars on manifeste pour le droit au logement, l’arrêt des expulsions et contre le logement cher ! On marche donc pour un logement abordable, stable, décent et écologique pour tou.te.s, sans discrimination et dans son quartier ! On se mobilise pour l’arrêt des expulsions, des coupures d’énergie et des mises à la rue ! On manifeste pour une baisse immédiate les loyers, taxer les plus-values de la spéculation, sanctionner les bailleurs fraudeurs ! On exige le rétablissement à la hausse des APL, l’arrêt de la vente et de la démolition du logement social

","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-03-27T14:00:00+01:00","2021-03-27"
22/03/2021 15:24:38,22/03/2021 15:24:38,"Réunion GT Projet","la prochaine réunion du GT Projet se tiendra le mardi 23 mars de 20h à 22h.

Le lien de connexion:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87804487891?pwd=QlpFcXBsYTlBNjI4aTdvNXB3czJvUT09

Nous attirons fortement votre attention sur cette réunion.

En effet, le transfère des fiches du Framapad à la Fabrique a été réalisé par Patrick et nous vérifierons ensemble si tout et OK et si les fiches peuvent être diffusées aux signataires via la newsletter.
Ce serait bien que toutes celles et ceux qui ont participé à la rédaction des fiches soient présents jusqu'à la fin de la réunion.

Une réunion plénière sera consacrée au projet. Il serait bien que la totalité des fiches soient rédigées. Il faudra alors travailler sur les documents de campagne pour qu'ils soient disponibles comme prévu dans le rétroplanning.

","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-23T20:00:00+01:00","2021-03-23T22:00:00+01:00"
28/03/2021 13:05:46,28/03/2021 13:05:46,"Plénière #11bis","Réunion plénière","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-03-26T20:00:00+01:00","2021-03-26T22:00:00+01:00"
28/03/2021 17:44:54,28/03/2021 17:44:54,"Carnaval des libertés","Vous vous sentez brimé dans votre liberté ? Rejoignez-nous le 3 avril à 11h au Parc de la Pépinière à Gap pour un carnaval itinérant des libertés de 11h à 17h. Venez masqué avec votre village, vos amis festifs, restaurateurs, artistes… Aidez-nous à faire de ce jour une réussite !
Organisé par Consultation Citoyenne et Populaire 05","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-04-03T11:00:00+02:00","2021-04-03T17:00:00+02:00"
29/03/2021 15:39:13,29/03/2021 15:39:13,"Plénière #12","Réunion plénière

Lien Visio : https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-04-02T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-02T22:00:00+02:00"
29/03/2021 15:39:36,29/03/2021 15:39:36,"GT PROJET","Validation des fiches en cours

Lien visio : https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-30T20:00:00+02:00","2021-03-30T22:00:00+02:00"
30/03/2021 18:55:30,30/03/2021 18:55:30,"GT candidats à la candidature ","Proposition d'ODJ :
1) retour sur la pleinière
2) les critères pour les candidats à la candidatures
3) nouveau point sur la situation dans les différents cantons
4) Pour anticiper, comment impliquer les citoyens dans la campagne à venir ?

Contacter [[mailto:pimprenelleb@laposte.net Pimprenelle]] pour toute question ou pour vous inscrire à ce groupe de travail.","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-31T18:30:00+02:00","2021-03-31"
06/04/2021 20:06:58,06/04/2021 20:06:58,"Réunion du GT projet","lien zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-06T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-06T22:00:00+02:00"
07/04/2021 23:53:23,07/04/2021 23:53:23,"Mise en place du groupe de travail « rédaction du projet de campagne »","Mise en place du GT RPC avec la participation de toutes les bonnes volontés et des potentiels candidats
Lien de la réunion —> https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-09T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-09T22:00:00+02:00"
09/04/2021 06:23:07,09/04/2021 06:23:07,"Réunion Ga n°2","Réunion Ga n°2 ""entre deux plénières""","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-09T20:30:00+02:00","2021-04-09T22:00:00+02:00"
10/04/2021 13:30:28,10/04/2021 13:30:28,"réunion Groupe candidature","Contacter [[mailto:pimprenelleb@laposte.net Pimprenelle]] pour toute question ou pour vous inscrire à ce groupe de travail.","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-12T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-12T22:00:00+02:00"
10/04/2021 13:33:35,10/04/2021 13:33:35,"Réunion GT Projet","Finalisation des fiches projets
lien zoom de la réunion :
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-13T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-13T22:00:00+02:00"
12/04/2021 07:05:24,12/04/2021 07:05:24,"Réunion n°3 Ga ","Réunion courte - derniers ajustements","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-15T20:25:00+02:00","2021-04-15T21:25:00+02:00"
13/04/2021 19:03:13,13/04/2021 19:03:13,"Action Trou de balles","Contre le projet de golf porté par la communauté de communes de Serres-Ponçon

Rendez-vous donc le samedi 17 avril à 12h à l’intersection RN94/route de Boscodon pour la défense des terres et de la nature, contre l’artificialisation, la bétonisation et la réintoxication du monde.
Pic-nic partagé le midi/soir

Plus d'infos : https://les-champs-libres.fr/le-17-avril-action-trou-de-balle-contre-la-reintoxiaction-du-monde-et-les
**Important ! **Suivre le lien ci-dessus pour vous doter d'une autorisation de manifester qui libère des obligations de distance (10 km)

Signer l’appel local : adieuglacier05@gmail.com
La Confédération Paysanne s’associe à cette action
Signer l’appel national : agir17@riseup.net
L’appel complet sur : https://agir17.noblogs.org/","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-04-17T12:00:00+02:00","2021-04-17T18:00:00+02:00"
15/04/2021 10:41:37,15/04/2021 10:41:37,"plénière #13","réunion plénière
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-04-16T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-16T22:30:00+02:00"
18/04/2021 08:34:25,18/04/2021 08:34:25,"réunion GT rédaction du projet de campagne","
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 Lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-20T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-20T22:00:00+02:00"
18/04/2021 08:35:22,18/04/2021 08:35:22,"réunion (payée double) du groupe Rédaction du Projet de Campagne.","[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 Lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-18T14:00:00+02:00","2021-04-18T16:00:00+02:00"
16/05/2021 18:00:17,16/05/2021 18:00:17,"Réunion Ga n°2","Préparation de la plénière 16 du 21 mai 2021","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-20T19:00:00+02:00","2021-05-21T20:15:00+02:00"
16/05/2021 14:42:40,16/05/2021 14:42:40,"réunion spéciale préparation des facebook live","réubion du gt animation de campagne
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-16T20:30:00+02:00","2021-05-16T22:30:00+02:00"
16/05/2021 14:44:46,16/05/2021 14:44:46,"gt animation de campagne","Préparation de la conférence de presse du 22 mai
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-19T20:30:00+02:00","2021-05-19T22:30:00+02:00"
16/05/2021 14:48:04,16/05/2021 14:48:04,"Conférence de presse","**Evènement de lancement de campagne
Samedi 22 mai 11h, Esplanade du conseil départemental à Gap**

Après plusieurs mois de construction d’un projet inédit pour des Hautes-Alpes solidaires, écologiques et citoyennes, voici venu le temps de sa présentation publique. Nous sommes impatients de pouvoir vous rencontrer pour vous présenter le résultat de ce que nous avons accompli tous ensemble.

Depuis le 5 mai, nos candidats ont déposé leurs candidatures en préfecture. C’est la concrétisation de la démarche d’union de citoyens, de partis et mouvements de gauche, et des écologistes, engagée depuis l’automne. Nous sommes plus d’un demi-millier à nous être lancé dans cette construction.

L’enjeu est maintenant de faire connaître cette dynamique et ce projet pour une nouvelle majorité dans les Hautes-Alpes, et de faire élire nos candidats dans chaque canton.
Le voile sera levé ce samedi 22 mai à 11h, devant le conseil départemental à Gap.
Nous vous invitons à cet évènement en présence des candidats, des soutiens et des médias. Nous le poursuivrons par un apéritif dinatoire partagé, à partir de nos spécialités respectives.

N’hésitez pas à venir accompagnés, dans le respect des règles sanitaires en vigueur. Une déclaration de rassemblement a été réalisée en préfecture. A samedi, dans la joie et la bonne humeur !","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-05-22T11:00:00+02:00","2021-05-22T15:00:00+02:00"
25/04/2021 13:24:43,25/04/2021 13:24:43,"Réunion GT Rédaction du projet de campagne","[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 Lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-27T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-27T22:00:00+02:00"
25/04/2021 13:24:48,25/04/2021 13:24:48,"plénière #13bis","[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 Lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-04-23T20:00:00+02:00","2021-04-23T22:00:00+02:00"
02/05/2021 10:30:51,02/05/2021 10:30:51,"plénière 14","réunion plénière
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-05-07T20:00:00+02:00","2021-05-07T22:30:00+02:00"
02/05/2021 10:31:55,02/05/2021 10:31:55,"réunion GT rédaction du projet de campagne","
[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-04T20:00:00+02:00","2021-05-04T22:30:00+02:00"
02/05/2021 10:39:10,02/05/2021 10:39:10," Le 8 mai 2021 contre la privatisation de nos biens communs ","le 8 mai à 12h rendez-vous devant l'usine du barrage de Serre-Ponçon RASSEMBLEMENT/DÉAMBULATION/PIQUE-NIQUE

Stop au self service, résistons ensemble contre le vol de nos biens communs. il est temps de réinventer les services publics.
Ces services du 21ème siècle devront être démocratiques, débureaucratisés, humains ,non numérisés et décentralisés.
Nous appelons toutes les organisations citoyennes, syndicales et associatives qui le souhaitent a rejoindre cette mobilisation.

Les biens communs appartiennent à la population.
L’état se doit d’être au service de la population et pas le contraire.

Quand tout sera privé on sera privé de tout !!!

info:http://www.privatisation-barrages.fr","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-05-08T12:00:00+02:00","2021-05-05"
10/05/2021 08:43:36,10/05/2021 08:43:36,"première réunion du GT animation de campagne","[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-10T20:30:00+02:00","2021-05-10T22:30:00+02:00"
18/05/2021 07:08:25,18/05/2021 07:08:25,"Plénière 16","Plénière 16 -
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 ","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-05-21T20:00:00+02:00","2021-05-21T22:00:00+02:00"
24/05/2021 14:32:00,24/05/2021 14:32:00,"GT animation de campagne","[[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09 lien zoom de la réunion]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-05-26T20:30:00+02:00","2021-05-26T22:30:00+02:00"
24/05/2021 16:04:46,24/05/2021 16:04:46,"Facebook Live "" économie de montagne ""","Le collectif ouvre la discussion sur le projet. Au menu du premier épisode d'une série de quatre: l'économie de montagne, pour un avenir durable. Comment décliner Solidarité, Ecologie et Citoyenneté entre tourisme et vivre au pays, bilan de l'existant et projections, avec quatre intervenants. **Toutes vos questions en direct. Rendez vous à 20h précises**
[[https://www.facebook.com/events/331040915248295 cliquer ici pour nous rejoindre]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-05-25T20:00:00+02:00","2021-05-25T21:00:00+02:00"
01/06/2021 10:34:54,01/06/2021 10:34:54,"Facebook Live "" Culture et vie associative ""","Mardi 1er juin, le deuxième épisode de Facebook live, toujours aussi motivés pour discuter autour de notre projet. Ce soir, Culture et vie associative sont au programme, rejoignez nous nombreux pour poser les questions, débattre avec les intervenants. A partir de 20heures, c'est par ici:
http://www.facebook.com/events/181889213830729?ref=newsfeed","Facebook live","2021-06-01T20:00:00+02:00","2021-06-01T21:00:00+02:00"
07/06/2021 10:06:32,07/06/2021 10:06:32,"Grande rencontre du collectif à Briançon","Rendez-vous à 11 h à la gare de Briançon pour une déambulation vers le marché en compagnie des candidats du collectif de tout le département.
Animation, théâtre et musique accompagneront notre pic-nic au parc de la Schappe.

Déplacement en train à privilégier et regroupement dans les gares depuis Gap

[[https://mailchi.mp/574e654e7a97/plnire-n8-du-collectif-hautes-alpes-solidaires-cologiques-et-citoyennes-4997107?e=b8bf0c57ca]]","Événément local (canton...)","2021-06-13T11:00:00+02:00","2021-06-13T17:00:00+02:00"
07/06/2021 14:59:23,07/06/2021 14:59:23,"Facebook Live "" Démocratie et participation citoyenne""","Mardi 8 juin, le deuxième épisode de Facebook live, toujours aussi motivés pour discuter autour de notre projet. Ce soir, Démocratie et participation citoyenne sont au programme, rejoignez nous nombreux pour poser les questions, débattre avec les intervenants. A partir de 20heures, c'est par ici:
https://www.facebook.com/events/591478238457657?ref=newsfeed","Facebook live","2021-06-08T20:00:00+02:00","2021-06-08T21:00:00+02:00"
14/06/2021 17:25:16,14/06/2021 17:25:16,"Facebook Live "" la solidarité""","4ème et dernier rendez-vous avant les élections, pour aborder une compétence majeure majeure du département : la solidarité
https://www.facebook.com/events/334573931709956?ref=newsfeed","Facebook live","2021-06-15T20:00:00+02:00","2021-06-15T21:00:00+02:00"
14/06/2021 17:28:28,14/06/2021 17:28:28,"ELECTIONS","C'est le jour J ! ","Événement extérieur au collectif","2021-06-20T08:00:00+02:00","2021-06-20T18:00:00+02:00"
16/06/2021 05:59:25,16/06/2021 05:59:25,"Réunion plénière 17","https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81257079618?pwd=TktkM0tydVFyZTQzUDZoMWhMTnZHQT09#success

ATTENTION - La plénière a été décalée à **20h30** pour laisser au plus grand nombre la possibilité d'y participer car beaucoup d'action en cette fin de campagne ... Merci de votre compréhension","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-06-17T20:30:00+02:00","2021-06-17T22:00:00+02:00"
01/10/2024 17:56:19,01/10/2024 17:56:19,"Réunion Groupe d'Animation","[[https://shop.onclick.co.uk/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Dating%20Turn-Offs 10 ways to make potential love interests say “umm, nevermind. i’m good”]]
[[https://siap-elearning.org/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Real%20Love%20Isn%27t%20Always%20Fireworks%20And%20Butterflies Real Love Isn't Always Fireworks And Butterflies]]
[[https://singersalud.milaulas.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=The%20Coolest%20Things%20About%20Being%20In%20A%20Relationship The Coolest Things About Being In A Relationship]]
[[https://skupnost.sio.si/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Unpacking%20the%20Behavior%20That%20Drives%20Us%20All%20Crazy Unpacking the Behavior That Drives Us All Crazy]]
[[https://solarenergytraining.org/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Why%20I%20Hate%20%E2%80%9CGood%20Girl%E2%80%9D%20Problems Why I Hate “Good Girl” Problems]]
[[https://spacedge.nss.org/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Retarded%20Relationship%20Paradoxes Retarded Relationship Paradoxes]]
[[https://ssp.nidm.gov.in/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Extremely%20Tempting%E2%80%A6And%20Toxic%20Types%20Of%20Women Extremely Tempting…And Toxic Types Of Women]]
[[https://students.scuolascuola.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=5%20Very%20Smart%20Ways%20To%20Help%20You%20Stay%20Faithful 5 Very Smart Ways To Help You Stay Faithful]]
","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-04-30T18:00:00+02:00","2021-04-30T19:30:00+02:00"
02/10/2024 16:31:33,02/10/2024 16:31:33,"réunion Groupe candidature","[[https://teleducacion.medicinaudea.co/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=5%20Universal%20Dating%20Truths 5 Universal Dating Truths]]
[[https://teleformacion.divinomaestrovigo.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=10%20Very%20Smart%20Dating%20Tips%20For%20Dummies 10 Very Smart Dating Tips For Dummies]]
[[https://test-aulamads.minambiente.gov.co/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=The%20One%20About%20When%20Guys%20Are%20Vulnerable%E2%80%A6 The One About When Guys Are Vulnerable…]]
[[https://toxlaguna.milaulas.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Ladies%20Here%E2%80%99s%20How%20You%20Get%20Caught%20Up%E2%80%A6Again Ladies Here’s How You Get Caught Up…Again]]
[[https://training.oaith.ca/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Are%20You%20An%20Interracial%20Relationship%20Racist%3F Are You An Interracial Relationship Racist?]]
[[https://training.toddington.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=When%20You%E2%80%99re%20Dating%20Somebody%20Who%20Isn%E2%80%99t%20Dating%20You When You’re Dating Somebody Who Isn’t Dating You]]
[[https://trongquyen.gnomio.com/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Do%E2%80%99s%20and%20Don%E2%80%99ts%20for%20%22Nice%22%20Guys%20%26%20Girls%20in%20Dating Do’s and Don’ts for ""Nice"" Guys & Girls in Dating]]
[[https://tuaulavirtual.educatic.unam.mx/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Three%20Signs%20You%20Are%20Dating%20A%20%E2%80%9CGood%20Dude%E2%80%9D Three Signs You Are Dating A “Good Dude”]]","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-02-23T18:30:00+01:00","2021-02-23T20:00:00+01:00"
04/10/2024 17:16:19,04/10/2024 17:16:19,"""Debunking the Myths: What Women Worry About That Men Don’t","[[https://www.open.edu/openlearncreate/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Devolution Black Marriage Negotiations: Here’s What They Think About You]]
[[https://help.elearning.ext.coe.int/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=When%20Beauty%20Leads%20to%20Bad%20Choices%20in%20Dating When Beauty Leads To Bad Choices In Dating]]
[[https://learning.envirn.org/blog/index.php?entryid=4 The One Topic Men And Women Never Agree On]]
[[https://elearning.ich.no/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Hard%20To%20Master%20Skills%20Every%20Single%20Man%20Must%20Posses Hard To Master Skills Every Single Man Must Posses]]
[[https://virtual.uas.edu.mx/sur/ceim/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Why%20Vague%20Dating%20Requirements%20Are%20Keeping%20You%20Single Why Vague Dating Requirements Are Keeping You Single]]
[[https://virtual-moodle.unne.edu.ar/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=5%20Things%20Women%20Do%20That%20Men%20Just%20Don%E2%80%99t%20Do 5 Things Women Do That Men Just Don’t Do]]
[[https://vle.tpp.ac.nz/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=What%20Men%20Actually%20Care%20About%20in%20Dating What Men Actually Care About in Dating]]
[[https://vsn.moodle-nds.de/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=6%20Little%20Known%20Things%20Single%20Men%20Really%20Care%20About 6 Little Known Things Single Men Really Care About]]
[[https://wast.onclick.co.uk/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=How%20Your%20%E2%80%9CLook%E2%80%9D%20Affects%20Your%20Luck%20In%20Dating How Your “Look” Affects Your Luck In Dating]]","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-10-10","2022-10-10"
07/10/2024 17:08:42,07/10/2024 17:08:42,"From Meet-Cute to Meet-Online: How Digital Dating Disrupts Human Contact","[[https://akuttportalen.no/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=S%C3%B8k%20og%20redningsoppdrag 8 Things Commonly Assumed To Be Black That Ain’t Really]]
[[https://www.anglokom.org/tag/index.php?tag=the%20truth%20about%20men The Truth About Men]]
[[https://www.aulaccr.cat/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Black%20Culture%20Decoded Black Culture Decoded]]
[[https://www.blsjapan.info/moodle/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Signs%20That%20You%20Might%20Not%20Be%20Compatible Signs That You Might Not Be Compatible]]
[[https://www.cenforma.net/moodle/tag/index.php?tag=relationship%20rules Relationship Rules]]
[[https://www.childrensmedicaleducation.org/nurses/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Jobs%20Most%20Likely%20To%20Lead%20to%20Hanky%20Panky%20On%20The%20Job Jobs Most Likely To Lead to Hanky Panky On The Job]]
[[https://www.egmdss.com/gmdss-courses/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Movies%20That%20Will%20End%20Your%20Half-Assed%20Relationship Movies That Will End Your Half-Assed Relationship]]
[[https://www.fac.org.ar/moodle/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Reasons%20Why%20He%E2%80%99s%20With%20a%20White%20Woman Reasons Why He’s With a White Woman]]

134TheRealestLeo July 18, 2011 at 5:59 am
=T

Where do women of your type live? lol

135nillalatte July 18, 2011 at 1:22 pm
Ahhh, we are rare creatures indeed. Fortunately for you, this forum provides ample opportunity to meet such a woman as many of the sisters here possess such a quality, and I have seen it in action. ;)

side note: never really considered myself a ‘type’, just real. LOL I’ll have to think on what ‘type’ of woman I project being now. :)

136TheRealestLeo July 18, 2011 at 1:49 pm
Behind a computer screen is one thing….

Actually meeting such women in real life would be more believable. (And uplifting.)

lol

137MizzCam July 18, 2011 at 2:27 pm
Ikr. I have so many interesting, intelligent conversations online with nice, attractive, respectful, well read men who live clear across the country…
In real life, interactions that start with, “Hey gul, come sit on my face,” happen more often than they should in any lifetime. #Jadedinthisdatinggame

138miss_sheri July 18, 2011 at 12:26 pm
Ha. I am about to start complimenting men on grammar and spelling. When did men forget how to spell. I got a text from an ex a couple of days ago that read: ” I apologises for how I treated you. I have changed allot.” What the hell?! I ignored him and deleted that s*@t.

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08/10/2024 14:22:52,08/10/2024 14:22:52,"Love or Lies? Recognizing Emotional Manipulation in Online Dating","[[https://www.jogrid.net/wi/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=5%20Signs%20That%20You%20Just%20Might%20Have%20To%20Marry%20Her%20Ass 5 Signs That You Just Might Have To Marry Her Ass]]
[[https://learning38.hcc.edu.gr/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=%E3%80%822000%20%E5%B9%B4%E3%81%AB%20Deckers%20%E3%82%AA%E3%83%97%E3%83%A9%E3%82%A6%E3%82%A3%E3%83%B3%20%E3%83%95%E3%83%AA%E3%83%BC%E3%80%81U%20%E3%81%AE%E5%A5%B3%E7%8E%8B%E3%81%AB%20%E3%82%B7%E3%83%A3%E3%83%8D%E3%83%AB%20%E8%B2%A1%E5%B8%83%E3%81%AE%E3%83%9A%E3%82%A2%E3%82%92%E5%AF%84%E4%BB%98%E5%BD%BC%E3%82%89 Things You Should Never Say To a Black Woman.]]
[[https://www.malvesia.es/campus/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Male%20Solutions%20To%20Common%20Women%20Problems Male Solutions To Common Women Problems]]
[[https://www.fatelaonline.org/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Things%20I%20Just%20Don%E2%80%99t%20Get%20About%20Women Things I Just Don’t Get About Women]]
[[https://www.fbioyf.unr.edu.ar/evirtual/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Love%20You%20For%20Free%20%28Or%20Something%20Like%20It%29 Valentine’s Day Date Options That Won’t Cost You A Fortune]]
[[https://www.fbioyf.unr.edu.ar/evirtual/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Things%20That%20You%20Just%20Shouldn%E2%80%99t%20Do%20While%20Dating Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do While Dating]]
[[https://www.ikasten.ikasbil.eus/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Valentine%E2%80%99s%20Day Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With]]
[[https://www.larweb.se/moodle/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Why%20Your%20%E2%80%9CNumber%E2%80%9D%20Matters%20So%20Much%20Yo%20Us Why Your “Number” Matters So Much Yo Us]]
[[https://www.luyenthitiengnhat.edu.vn/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=They%20Are%20Cheating%20On%20You%20With%20A%20Friend%20Of%20Yours They Are Cheating On You With A Friend Of Yours]]

209WIP July 18, 2011 at 8:45 am
I thought about that too, when I see my female friends, the first thing we do is start the compliments. “You look good, you look cute, I like your hair, you dropped a few pounds?” Watching reality shows, I see women do that too. The first thing they say when they see each other “oh, you guys look beautiful, you look so pretty.” I’m not sure what that’s about!

210Leonie UK July 18, 2011 at 2:05 am
Giving compliments is my daily thing, I can’t help it. I just love the thought, whatever I put out, will come back to me double. But sometimes it backfires. Case in point. I gave a female a compliment on her outfit, and she felt this was an open invation to dinner and a ” quick sneaky shag” 0-0. So it’s not only men that are thirsty for compliments.

Favourite compliments I love getting are ” Your smile is beautiful” ” ” Sunshine is in the building” and my favourite ” Auntie you make the best cuppa EVER”

211MizzCam July 18, 2011 at 2:15 am
+1
I get the smile one a lot. Makes me proud of my pearly whites. =)

212herbetteroption July 18, 2011 at 11:39 am
u do have a pretty smile btw

213MizzCam July 18, 2011 at 12:04 pm
aww shucks, Thanks.

214Cali July 18, 2011 at 2:21 am
**is gonna start complementing random dudes**

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","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-10-15","2022-10-15"
09/10/2024 17:20:10,09/10/2024 17:20:10,"Challenging Perception: Black Men, Success, and the Interracial Marriage Stereotype","[[https://orientamento.elearning.unipd.it/orientamento/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Things%20Every%20Grown%20Black%20Man%20Needs%20In%20His%20Life Things Every Grown Black Man Needs In His Life]]
[[https://gfarias.com/campus/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=The%20Black%20Dating%20Game The Black Dating Game]]
[[https://moodle.univ-tln.fr/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=How%20To%20Stop%20%E2%80%9CThat%E2%80%9D%20Dude%20From%20Trying%20To%20Talk%20To%20You How To Stop “That” Dude From Trying To Talk To You]]
[[https://ead.pge.rs.gov.br/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=10%20Most%20Common%20Lies%20People%20Tell%20in%20A%20Relationship 10 Most Common Lies People Tell in A Relationship]]
[[https://akademijazakme.edu.rs/tag/index.php?tag=pravnici I’ll Be Your Pappy: The Silence of the Daddy Issues]]
[[https://aci.moodlesite.pukunui.net/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Three%20Underrated%20Relationship%20Benchmarks Three Underrated Relationship Benchmarks]]
[[https://ws089.juntadeandalucia.es/moodle/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Why%20Successful%20Men%20Don%E2%80%99t%20Want%20To%20Put%20A%20Ring%20On%20it Why Successful Men Don’t Want To Put A Ring On it]]
[[https://educaciodigital.cat/cfanougirona/moodle/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=Annoying%20Things%20Women%20Only%20Do%20If%20They%E2%80%99re%20Into%20You Annoying Things Women Only Do If They’re Into You]]
[[https://elearning.a-sapiens.it/tag/index.php?tc=1&tag=How%20Every%20Single%20Young%20Woman%20Can%20Improve%20Her%20Luck How Every Single Young Woman Can Improve Her Luck]]

336WIP July 18, 2011 at 9:42 am
LOL, I don’t know about anyone else, but it’s really not like that. I’d be silent before I gave a fake compliment. I think we just like complimenting our friends. “Mean Girls” was over in high school.
(Is it just me, or are kids in the high school movies way meaner than IRL? The kids at my high school were relatively friendly.)

337Orange Star Happy Hunting July 18, 2011 at 9:53 am
exactly I don’t give brawds fake compliments WTH for, but depending on a guy’s arrogance level I will withhold certain info, like if I know he got racks of brawds on his scrotum, I won’t be one more.

338Cheekie July 18, 2011 at 11:14 am
“Word” on that arrogance level. Like, I’ll WITHOLD a compliment based on principle (gassing folks up who is already a walking BP? Nawl, the gas is too dayum high), but give a fake one. *snort*… ok.

339Orange Star Happy Hunting July 18, 2011 at 11:41 am
LLS!

340TheRealestLeo July 18, 2011 at 1:25 pm
“(Is it just me, or are kids in the high school movies way meaner than IRL? The kids at my high school were relatively friendly.)”

Nah, they can be that mean in real life. I was on the receiving end of some of that back when I was a lowercase G. Montell.

Then again, I went to high school in Detroit….

341Malik July 18, 2011 at 2:26 pm
(Is it just me, or are kids in the high school movies way meaner than IRL? The kids at my high school were relatively friendly.)
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i don’t know about this. i’m all about passing shit tests and not taking beta bait, but i’m not so much about raw dog. if a chick is letting you in sans rubber, how many other dudes have done the same. and how many other girls have those other dudes been with. even if a girl has only been with a couple of other guys, the exposure is exponentially increasing.

not to mention the power a woman has over you if one of your boys slips past the goalie and you knock her up.

on June 1, 2010 at 12:01 pmThe Rookie
I like how you say that a shit test is an opportunity to demonstrate higher value. If you aren’t getting shit tested, you’re just wasting your time entertaining her, right?

on June 1, 2010 at 12:12 pmPeter (not GNP)
Honestly, ladies, whatever your 1-10 looks ranking is, you should be striving for a big fat ZERO for your STD rating.

Yeah, the fastest rising HIV infected population is heterosexual women, apparently. Receptive hetero intercourse carries a much lower risk (1 in 1000) of HIV than teh buttsex (1 in 100) – but the risks for STD’s add together. So a chick with Herpes and HIV will have a greater chance of giving you HIV. Plus hetero chicks do teh butsex more and more anyway – probably the reason for their higher HIV infection rates.

Of course, here in the first world, the low number of HIV infected women plus the low chance of transmission in a single act of intercourse means you’re unlikely to get an HIV infection from a one night stand.

But you never know where any chick has been. That sweet med-school student you were dating probably spent a summer in africa building a village with Medecins sans Frontieres, and likely got plowed by a high status, highly educated local. Who might be a closet bull queer who gets his pick of the local ass buffet.

Oh, the best part! Most STIs are transmitted through relationship concurrency – mistresses and tail-end-of-relationship affairs. I.e. you’re raw-dogging your girlfriend, but took the beta bait, failed the shit tests, and now she’s getting reamed out on the side. The guy she’s seeing has a friend with benefits, they also raw-dog, etc, etc.

on June 1, 2010 at 12:13 pmNewAlpha
>>RobertGoulet

If she persists, she’s being a whiny inquisitive brat. Agree and amplify.

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Without losing hand, he can (assuming Wednesday works out for him) convey that she is the only one he is *currently* screwing. He already plans to mysteriously “resolve some things” which she will interpret as dumping other girls he has been dating although those girls may actually be left with the impression that no bridges have been burned. That frees him from scrutiny for a while, but he is worried about preserving his options. He is contemplating lying as the only way to fool around with other women while keeping PCG.

I say: Gorb, it’s too early to be looking ahead to this. You’ll ruin the frame. You can be 100% honest about your previous relationships right now, and honesty is very powerful. There are two ways to keep a girl properly worried about losing you, but in this case only one of them works because she eclipses the other girls so much.

That is, “you might not turn out to be good enough for me and I might have to look for someone better eventually” is the right way, and “right now there are other girls who appeal to me despite the fact that I am with you so you’d better keep on your toes” is the wrong way. See the subtle difference? The wrong way, you say she has already been found to be imperfectly enthralling, so she gets mad and kicks you to the curb; the right way, she knows you have found nothing wrong with her so far but still feels the need to keep qualifying herself to you.

With a girl who was less sure about her value relative to other girls, both methods of instilling insecurity might work, but when she knows damn well there is nobody currently in your orbit who will outshine her, she simply won’t believe she has to worry about a specific current rival. Her worry has got to be eventually losing your interest, not that she’s currently inadequate.

I’ve noticed that some high quality, non-slutty girls are much more likely to forgive interest in a girl you knew before you met her, and poisonously angry if you develop a liking for someone new. They only partially understand men: they know men differ from women in not naturally ceasing to find a partner attractive once someone better has come along, but they want to be so much more than enough for you that you would lose interest in new women, which is unrealistic but necessary for them to not feel inadequate. The corollary is if she knows she is hotter than any other girl you’ve had, she’ll expect exclusivity.

With a slutty girl you can stay noncommittal, expecting that she’ll stick around for the O’s, but that ain’t happening for you with PCG.

Fortunately, you can still be honest if you deflect slightly, viz.:

Girl: You’re not going to mess around with other girls, right?

You: I’m not interested in them, I’m interested in you. (Note shift to present tense, and use of specific “them”rather than generic “other girls”, to show that they exist and it will be your choice not to pursue them.)

Girl: But you won’t do it, right? Because it would be over for us then.
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""It's to compete wih my girlfriends, so I can be the most attractive"".
I then ask, ""Why?"" and they tell me it's to increase their percieved social status among the group, to be alpha female.
I ask, ""Why do you want to be the most attractive or the alpha female?""
They all reply the same thing, ""The alpha female usually gets the hottest guy and gets the most male attention"".

Then you go on to say,
""And men in general don't realize that women do NOT think about sex all day like they do. We don't even think about it once per day. Or once per week"".

That is the single most absurd comment. The normal, well-adjusted women that I know not only think about sex more than once a day, they desire that sex strongly on a daily basis. Those women sometimes don't act on those desires because they're afraid of their social circle or peers judging them to be a slut, thereby lowering their value in their social circle, thereby decreasing their potential to attract the 'hottest guy' or be the 'alpha female'.

All your comments are doing is attempting to sustain the ridiculous and thoroughly incorrect ideas that women are not sexual and for a man to make his sexual intentions known to a woman by being honest and genuine would get him nowhere. I know from my own experience that to in fact make my sexual intentions known to a woman tactfully, has always made it easier for the woman and I to seduce each other and have a wonderful experience. My sexual interest in women can be communicated verbally or physically, with non-verbal body language and physical escalation or a combination of both.
Women need to know that a man is sexually interested in them to have sex with that man.
You talk about what women like, what they don't like and what they're tired of. Men don't care about that, we care about what works to get wonderful women to be in our lives to add value to our lives.
You give no practical advice as to 'What to do' or what works to be patient or to phrase more accurately, ""outcome independance"" and neither does this article, as was the subject of the first comments by anonymous.

dakota Says:
January 6th, 2010 at 8:17 pm
I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for over 6 months…. And everything has been perfect till about 3 weeks ago… She and i have started arguing and its over stuff that ant even worth it….

When i first meet her i was determined to get with her and she was the same about me she use to tell me how much she loved me and that she wonted to be with me forever and all of that… Well now she dont… And i am so scared of looseing her that all i think about is how i am going to loose her and all the negitive things how can i keep from doing that? I no that she wouldnt but i am always worried about it.
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MidoriLei Says:
December 16th, 2011 at 4:42 pm
Hi Josh,

So I can see her disappointment because whatever you guys did while you were trying to win her, that’s the same stuff she’s expecting you will do together, you know? Otherwise it’s kinda like false advertising. I tell this to women about their looks. They shouldn’t do anything with their looks that they’re not willing to maintain or keep up long term. That too would be false advertising.

The biggest thing is that she needs to feel that youre being attentive. Even if you are exhausted, it shows you are making an effort. It’s less about surprising her as it is coming up with ideas with her to see what she would like to do too. That way she can tell you want to do things.

Also, is there any way you can do things in the mornings or is she out of the door while youre still sleeping?
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Ice Cube was in that one, too… so you have a double whammy. Sweet.

Arafat Khadafi {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:01 am}

@Dante_Alexander, Yeah. That’s right. Chicken Foots sucking as. NR.

Yaa {June 22nd, 2009 at 9:59 am}

@Naturally Alise, has he been typecast for these roles or something?

SAULE WRIGHT {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:05 am}

@Naturally Alise,

Ving has played a woman/crossdresser/gay a few times…Must be da money!

Cheekie {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:24 pm}

@Naturally Alise,

I need to sit down and look at this, especially when I’m in a goofy mood. I always see it on BET halfway through the movie, and say I’m gonna sit down and watch this.

I don’t know why but seeing Ving in drag made me uncomfortable upon first viewing but now I’ve come to terms with it all. Plus, why is his name Ving? Sound likes some straight onomatopoeia ish. Like it should be in a Batman comic or something. I mean really, Mama Rhames, reallyM/b>?!

Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 4:35 pm}

@Cheekie,

“Sound likes some straight onomatopoeia ish. Like it should be in a Batman comic or something.”

LOL! This is the fantasy in my head…
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The Game with Michael Douglas? I thought that was good. lol

pgh muse {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:10 pm}

@Me fail english?, That movie was good!

WuDaMan {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:32 pm}

@pgh muse, That movie was scary

39Cheekie { 06.22.09 at 11:14 am }
I stanned mad hard for Vampire in Brooklyn when I was a kid. But, you wouldn’t be able to tell nowadays because I completely forgot about that movie so I desperately need to revisit easier times.

40Kindred Smile { 06.22.09 at 11:19 am }
I strongly feel that any bad movie + IG friends + likka = cinematic greatness.

Also? I don’t see how anyone hasn’t mentioned “Cover”. It’s got Vivica Fox, Paula Jai Parker, effin LEON?! This movie attempted to expose the lifestyle of the DL brotherhood, but ended up a tangy mess all around.

Watch it. It’s so bad it’s…bad, but I guarantee you WILL be entertained.

Omar {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:29 am}

@Kindred Smile, Speaking of Leon, Cool Runnings was hilarious bad accents and all…

Cheekie {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:40 am}

@Omar,

I love Leon. He born to play David Ruffin in The Temptations.
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12:01: the champ makes eye contact with chick who could easily pass for a lighter, hooder, version of nia long�. he approaches her. they introduce themselves (her name was “gee”).

they talk.

12:05: they talk some more.

12:10: they dance.

12:15: the champ takes the short break between songs as an opportunity to get gee’s number. the champ enjoys getting women’s numbers in the middle of packed dance floors, because it give him the opportunity to show everyone that he has a sidekick.

12:16: because of the noise level, the champ can’t really understand what she’s saying, so he hands her the phone to put her name and digits in herself. when finished, she hands the phone back to the champ, gives him a very nice hug, and goes back to chill with her girls.

12:18: before going to search for the rest of his crew of extremely inebriated assh*les, the champ glances in the phone to make sure she saved her info correctly, sess that “gee’s” full name was “gretchen”, and debates whether or not he was mentally, spiritually, and emotionally prepared to continue his life with a woman named “gretchen” in his address book.

12:20: sadly, the champ deletes the number.

ok, vsb…you’ve just read mine. now i want to hear yours. whats the shallowest, strangest, and most shamefully superficial reason you’ve ever had for dismissing a potential mate? we all got em, so no holier-than thouedness allowed today.

One year ago today, The Champ. Panama Jackson, and Liz, launched VSB.com. In effect, we started this gangsta sh*t…and this the mother*cking thanks we get?

Sorry, wrong video.

Anyway, what started out as a convo between The Champ and I as a way to keep our names out there in the public while we work on our book became a site where people come to laugh, cry, wax philosophical, wax ignancophical, to wax on and wax off.
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LoveStory.sg Says:
February 4th, 2011 at 12:54 am
This is interesting advice.. while these questions are very good and useful, i would add that the timing of the questions is important also.. You don’t wanna scare the other party away..

Laura Says:
February 20th, 2011 at 5:12 pm
To someone who said that most of those question could’nt be answered I can say that maybe that was the wrong person you asked all that then :) everyone who has some common sence and thinks a little bit could answer that. And if he/she cant do that, then well…. in that case I think I would have my answer if that person is worth my attention :)

MidoriLei Says:
February 22nd, 2011 at 6:47 pm
Laura, so true. The kind of person who is willing to invest some thought and provide you with answers shows that he is more serious and thinking more long term than the person who can’t answer them or doesn’t want to. It’s not that they can’t be answered. It’s that some people aren’t willing to answer them. It also shows that the person actually cares about relationships and how to make them work.

Rahul Says:
March 8th, 2011 at 7:59 pm
So J prom is coming up and I really want to ask this girl. Shes been a friend for the last 4 years, but shes been going out with one of my friends for the last 1-1.5ish, its just that they have broken up at the mo and no one knows if they are gonna get back together. But since they have done that like 3 times already, idk what will happen. But anyway, Idk what I should do. I don’t wanna offend my friend (the guy). I asked da gall what her plans were for J prom and she was like, I’d go if someone asked me. I wanted to do it right there and then but I controlled my self lol. What should I do??

MidoriLei Says:
March 10th, 2011 at 5:44 pm
Rahul, ASK HER! her comment was a hint to ask her! But if you don’t want to offend your guy friend, run it by him and let him know your plans to ask her out. Don’t ask him for permission (as she does not belong to him and they are broken up) but just let him know your plans so he isn’t shocked when you go together. If he is like “That’s not cool! Don’t ask her to the prom!” then you have to say, “Sorry, she’s a free woman, she’s going to have to make that decision.”

dede Says:
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My reflexes are all wrong and I am working every day to create normal behavior. But fear is my companion, moment by moment. I flinch at loud noises, at traffic sounds, doors slamming, sudden cries of the young.

I trance out and visions fill me at the drop of a hat, then the cold spot from everything you agreed to being a joke and the sound of screams rise and I’m balling up and “too late, too late could I have done more” wars with “she never listened anyway you are nothing and the pain for her rises and ….”

I speak in poetry and melodrama to shield myself from having to say any of this. I make up a me and let it play for you. I’ve gotten so good at it I can just go hide in the corner while my fingers type and my mind runs on. I can write for facts and I can also write for feelings. Those feelings are over there and I don’t have to handle them except in lines of print. I polish the lines of words until it becomes the music and songs that let me hide.

CS: Do you think other people were aware of your mother’s abuse of you and your sister at the time? If so, in what ways did they respond?

MG: You assume that I would have felt free to say anything. There was always drama and there was always the invisible blade of what would happen if all of this dreadful secret got out. The atmosphere of fear of discovery was simply everywhere and there was no place to hide.

Worse, I was ashamed. When you are small you believe stuff, and I felt with my whole heart that I was responsible when she would go bad. There was absolutely no way I was gonna drag the mountain onto my head. And that made every day a drama, a thick clogged tube of waiting for the dreadful, the un-nameable horror.

And nobody spoke. Everything was always fine and that was my clown suit. I thought everyone knew and that I was such a bad person no one would speak to me. My echo chamber filled me with such fear of exposure I would do anything to make the shadow go away. And I did. The shame paints my world yellow and pink and brown. I don’t want to say these things any more.

Marion Zimmer Bradley’s star rose with the feminist movement. She was a luminary for feminists who were seeking a form of spirituality they could call their own. Her Mists of Avalon, published in 1983, provided just what many of these women were looking for at just the right moment; as the cheesy New Age spirituality of the 1970s wound down, Bradley’s invention of a world of Celtic druids and priestesses struggling against fierce Saxon masculists and Roman Catholic patriarchs offered a mythology that many Anglo women could relate to on a deeper, ancestral level.
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06/11/2024 16:46:30,06/11/2024 16:46:30,"Should You Share Passwords in a Relationship?","[[https://bit.ly/3CesTEu Things You Should Never Tell Your Dating Partner]]
[[https://bit.ly/40z86Wa Why Romantic Comedies Might Ruin Your Love Life]]
[[https://bit.ly/40zCL5K The Pitfalls of Long-Distance Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/3NWo7Ov A Humorous Take on Culture, Fun, and Dating Standards]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Cdzm2t Whats In A Name?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4fkIhOs The Loveawake Guide to One-Night Stand Etiquette]]
[[https://bit.ly/4fuH1s9 Advice to My Younger Self]]
[[https://bit.ly/40BwhDx 3 Signs That You Might Be A Bitter Man]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Aw2YYi Let’s Be Friends.]]
[[https://bit.ly/4fenR9H Roses]]
[[https://bit.ly/3O38Knj Men Temptation and Commitment]]
[[https://bit.ly/4f6fhtv Night Out Etiquette: Nightlife Etiquette Loveawake Style]]
[[https://bit.ly/3NY9p9U Monogamy for Dummies]]
[[https://bit.ly/40HbRsC Oh No (S)He Didn’t!]]
[[https://bit.ly/4f6fkWd The Dangers of Rating Your Girlfriend]]

All the money and time you can save.
Wild trips to South America and Southeast Asia.

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Visitant July 22, 2014 at 19:10
@The Brass Cat

Isn’t patriarchy some sort of instinct after basic animal order has been surpassed? The same way we act now almost instantly about morals over competition and so on, maybe patriarchy and women resorting to accepting monogamy could be instinct?

Personally I believe we were very close to changing basic instincts. By morals and logic, respectable thinking (REAL progress) men were achieving a state where women would trade gratefully and without second thoughts their animal-like hypergamy by respect, safety, better house/income, better child raising, more comfort and love in monogamy/patriarchy.

Men on their way would gladly change their basic animal response to fatherhood, loyalty, loving and romance. All that contributed by forming better child, better individuals, better societies and a more sound life economically/affectionately. By the promise of value of all that by women…

More so, we were achieving that by agreement. Woman saw that as benefical just as men and marriage happened this way naturally and not forced. As opposite in most of the world where women are/were FORCED to marry to the mere convenience of men one way or another.

Patriarchy would be accepted, not forced and instinctive if were not by feminism and the victory of a small group of whores wanting “freedom” that was transferred to all society. Also, a number of legitimate women seeking equality was trapped by the illusion.

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Judo-chop July 22, 2014 at 20:28
I imagine watching their seniors who are hitting 40 in record numbers as washed out, miserable spinsters, also is driving this phenomenon.

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Nemo July 22, 2014 at 23:21
“Problem is the sexual morality game was never about restricting women, it was always about restricting MEN, unrestricted male behaviour is the destructive current. Rape, murder, destruction, conflict, anarchy etc. is the sole purview of the male sex.”
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07/11/2024 17:12:58,07/11/2024 17:12:58,"Post-Breakup Success: A Guide for the Newly Single","[[https://bit.ly/4hDsOKz Moments in Dating We'd Wipe Away if We Had the Chance]]
[[https://bit.ly/40x67lm Lies Damn Lies and Wonderbras.]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Azigvx Pole Position]]
[[https://bit.ly/40Bw1EE The Goggles]]
[[https://bit.ly/3UGDvm6 Kinky Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hFWoiA The Art Of The Breakup: 10 No-Nos For The Dumper]]
[[https://bit.ly/3YW6q84 The Dumpee Survival Guide]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hwN0xX Chick Logic (Or the Lack Thereof)]]
[[https://bit.ly/3UCE8gs Why Women Shouldn't Make the First Move in Dating]]

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DW3 July 26, 2014 at 06:41
Bill, I’m sorry; I love what you write and enormously respect the time and effort you put in to the blog, but this comparison is too much of stretch, even for one of your biggest fanboys. Chesterton is next only to the Almighty and his Son in terms of wisdom and skill with words, and compared to that, you’re just some guy pondering the world.

Coincidentally, my mother and I were discussing Chesterton only a couple days ago, and I have been re-reading “Orthodoxy” since then. Our discussion was about whether Jesus’ words were just a man describing things in his own terms, or directly inspired by God the Father. Chesterton somewhere wrote that Jesus had his own voice or tone, and it has lead me back to a very satisfying and thought-provoking section on one of my bookshelves.

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justlooking July 26, 2014 at 08:45
A somewhat tangential view…:
I will go further, and opine that feminism actually started many, many years back…to the Garden of Eden, if you will. I was struck with the consistency of the message of feminism right from the very beginning. Just as women are being told today, Eve was told that God was trying to keep her down; that there would be no consequences for going against natural order; and that she would be equal with God if she rebelled against everything she knew; that she deserved this equality, irrespective of her personal qualifications and efforts. We all know how it ended.
Todays women are being sold the same bill of goods, only that “God” has been replaced by “The Patriarchy”.
Unfortunately, we have an idea how it’s all going to end. The sad part of it though, is that when the push comes to shove, both the feminists and the nonfeminists will be negatively affected.

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shmiggen July 26, 2014 at 10:09
That’s pretty damn good. Can anyone doubt the last paragraph? Who hasn’t been in an office and seen two or three office girls running around as though the stationary and computers were her own children?

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08/11/2024 17:26:11,08/11/2024 17:26:11,"Does Your Partner’s Potential Excite or Frustrate You?","[[https://bit.ly/4ekyN4l Why Sharing Passwords With Your Partner]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3CjpS5M Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Break-Up]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3Ce6Pdg Dating Real Test Is in the Wallet]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Cj0wFa How To Know That Your Relationship Is In Trouble]]
[[https://bit.ly/4fjgi1q When Potential Becomes a Relationship Killer]]
[[https://bit.ly/48W4QGR The Unspoken Truths About Blame in Relationships]]
[[https://bit.ly/48GnhPx How Technology is Killing the Romance]]

For the good of the child and the family, I think paternal leave should also be included in any parental leave legislation. For some men, it might be easier, depending on the living situation, to avoid the house and go to work every day, but for most it isn’t. It wasn’t for me, even when there was a grandmother to provide support. For one thing, the baby doesn’t sleep on your schedule, so your ability to follow routines and get enough sleep is severely compromised. Anyone who is familiar with a baby’s cries knows that it’s almost impossible to ignore or sleep through them, and that’s by design. For guys who work with heavy machinery or have long commutes, this could be downright dangerous. One solution, if the house is big enough, is to sleep in another room. But even that doesn’t always do the trick, and sleeping on a couch is far from ideal.

Another issue is that the mother can’t take care of housework as usual. Babies are extremely demanding, and if it comes down to feeding husband or child, baby wins. Despite birth, mother and child remain a “unit” for months postpartum. When she leaves, the baby gets upset. Experienced fathers like me have some tricks up our sleeves for calming babies, but they don’t always work — sometimes nursing is the only thing that will calm them down. So, unless you want to be stuck with a screaming baby watching thWhen Uncle Elmer linked news of the Zoe Quinn affair(s) last week, I looked over the story and found myself mostly just appalled by the behavior of these “adults” involved in the gaming scene. Quinn herself isn’t much of a surprise, but given how easy it was for her to sleep with so many guys in the same industry in such a short timeframe I wonder how desperate these game developers must be. For starters, Zoe Quinn isn’t a stunner. Far from it. She doesn’t hold a candle to some of the manslayers I’ve come across in my day. It’s really one of those “no contest” sorts of things. She might hold her own in a place like Ketchikan, filled as it is with lonely fishermen, but the Bay Area? Pathetic.

I also have to say that I’m not too impressed by her boyfriend, Eron Gjoni. Sharing all the intimate details instead of sticking to the basic facts of a failed relationship is bad form. It’s a high school level of self-indulgence. For those readers who might be tempted to do the same, don’t. It’s best not to name names, post photos, publicly air text messages or trash the other party, even if they are in the wrong, because it reflects poorly on you. Longtime readers will know that I rarely mention my ex, and only do so when I have to explain important, relevant facts. I wouldn’t dream of posting her picture or any private correspondence. Nevertheless, I’m glad Zoe’s ex did it, because now I know a little more about the culture in the most economically dynamic part of America (nothing flattering), but eventually I just got tired plodding through all the gossipy details. After reading the story, I showed it to my wife, and she was pretty amazed that such childish people populate one of the wealthiest places on earth. I wonder sometimes whether these people – several of whom look to be in their thirties already – are aware of how outlandish and adolescent they appear to ordinary folks who are just trying to get by.
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12/11/2024 17:35:59,12/11/2024 17:35:59,"When Love Clicks, but Cash Doesn’t: Staying Connected with Little Funds","[[https://bit.ly/3UM2wMy Signs Men Look For Before Approaching]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3Z0kVYl When Romance Gets Real]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3ABOuGt Getting Ready for ‘I Do’]]
[[https://bit.ly/3UJKBGg Why Is It Hard For Men To Write About Sex?]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Z0Fkwt Why Love Means Tolerating Each Other's Quirks]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hXZyyH When Love Escapes Us.]]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Studentenverbindung#mediaviewer/File:German_students_duelling,_W%C3%BCrzburg_c.1900.jpg

The result was deep scars which they wore with pride

https://ensarkosis.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/mensur-scar.png

and they were a sign that they were men you could trust either as statesmen or to lead others to battle. They would not back down, retreat or grovel.

By the way, historians still wonder how come the Germans kept going after the thousands of tons of bombs the Allies were dropping constantly on German cities during WW2, the answer is simple: they were commanded by such men….

Those men of the old banged and married quality and refined females (who also happened to be virgins when they were married) and they produced intelligent, honourable and beautiful kids. They would occasionally bang quality prostitutes but they wouldn’t ruin their marriages nor publish books bragging about it.
Well that was the elite back then. Even the deracinated and money -obsessed WASPs had some quality in them.

What do we have now for aristocracy? Money-grabbing bankers, slimy creatures with the appearance and manners of a perverted building manager who would still your daughter’s underwear…
I mean seriously just look at one of the main representatives of them: http://media.economist.com/images/images-magazine/2011/01/15/fn/20110115_fnp001.jpg

and what else? Geeks…Pimple-faced 30-something children who live in front of the screen, and even while they make tons of money they would still bang ugly freaks such as that Zoe Quinn.
We are living in an upside world. The problem aren’t people such as Zoe, she has done what most females of her class, status and style have done since the dawn of mankind. She uses sex to get things from men. The difference is that even 20 or 10 years ago you had to be at least goodlooking to get something from rich men….Now not even that is a factor….

I personally wouldn’t touch that freak for anything, her face screams venereal disease and overconsumption of antidepressants and narcotics.
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13/11/2024 16:24:53,13/11/2024 16:24:53,"Search Terms You Hope You’ll Never See In Your Boyfriend’s Broswer","[[https://bit.ly/3ALVd0r What It’s Like to Be a Guy]]
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[[https://bit.ly/48NziTt She's Out Of My League?]]
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[[https://bit.ly/48JPXqI 4 Things You Should Know About Arguing With Your Man]]
[[https://bit.ly/3APtCLQ A Guide to Recognizing Red Flags in Online Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/3YD19Ri My Worst One Nite Stand Competition]]
[[https://bit.ly/4ergOJz Is Friend With Benefits Really Possible?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4foiapx How White People Date]]
[[https://bit.ly/48ThypK Letter From An Ex-Girlfriend]]
[[https://bit.ly/3YNw7GN Seducing Someone More Attractive Than You]]

Not long ago your anxieties, curiosities, and private oddities remained safely in your head – no one really knew what was on your mind, at least until you acted on them. Now, thanks to Google, your mental footprints are sitting in the search history of your browser window (the browser doubles as a search bar for any half-way tech savvy person.) This poses a particular problem/opportunity if you’re dating someone – why wait for them to reveal their secrets, when they’re just a little trip to Google Chrome away? When you finally go here are some of the search phrases and word combinations you hope you won’t come across. (thanks to D.H.W and B.H.R for their additions)

what+does+ genital +herpes+look+like+male+shaft

conquering+fear+intimacy

killing+and+eating+kittens

cleaning+my+detachable+penis

wanting+to+experiment+homosexuality

heroin+adverse+effects

bombmaking+with+cleaning+products

steps+towards+becoming+transgender

maintain+erections+cant+why

dumping+girlfriend+how+to+not+hurt+feelings

am+I+gay+how+to+know

cheating+without+caught+tricks

telling+girlfriend+you+are+gay+how+to

porn+addiction+hiding+from+girlfriend

meth+recipes

gerbil+rectum+extract

craigslist+casual+hookups+over70

shaving+balls+laceration+tourniquet","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-11-25","2022-11-30"
18/11/2024 16:24:52,18/11/2024 16:24:52,"Most Iconic Black Movie Characters (Post-Blaxploitation)","[[https://bit.ly/3USGqbk 5 Ways To Prove You’re Really In Love!]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3UO3YOs 10 Things Every Single Woman Needs]]

If there’s one thing I love in life it’s Black movies. I can’t get enough. I like it, I love, I want more of it. It’s like that. In fact, my Netflix queue is full of movies that most people don’t know exist, and largely for good reason. But me? Naw, I want to see more productions by people who are just trying to create riveting entertainment that will stand the test of time.

Now, most directors and movies fail horribly at creating anything worth remembering, much less seeing again. However, they’re all chasing that elusive goal of creating a piece of art that inspires ripples through the community through development of characters and story lines that impact our lives. So with that in mind – and as I hope to one day create one of these movies – I created a list of the 10 most iconic Black movie characters, post blaxpoitation. You may disagree with a few of these, but that’s what makes for good television. Well, actually today what makes for good television is crazy women talking about who shook the table and what not. And pure ratchetness. But that’s another talk show. Moving on…here’s the definitively debatable list of characters that have changed your life.

Allons-y.

1. Darius Lovehall (Love Jones)

This character has single-handedly ruined more relationships than any other on this list. Ever since Love Jones (the quintessential educated ninja Black movie) dropped, every. single. woman. has wanted to date a man like Darius. You know the guy…actually you don’t, because he doesn’t exist. He’s the perfect mix of intelligence and cool and artiness and focus and hell, everything. And the ninja makes omelets. Who can compete with that? Yeah, he’s #1.

2. Madea (The Tyler Perry Suite)

Did this ninja Panama lose his mind?? No, he didn’t and suck my left toe. Like it or love it, Madea is iconic. Nobody said this individual had to be positive or negative. But Tyler Perry wasn’t no fool. He created a character that nearly EVERYBODY knows, white or Black, who either makes people cringe in disgust or laugh in understanding. My parents love Madea. I hate Madea. If that isn’t success, I don’t know what is. Anyway, we all know somebody like Madea and she’s invaded our consciousness. Sucks for us.

3. Nina Mosley (Love Jones)

This may or may not be accurate, while Darius Lovehall is THE Black movie character and sh*t, Nina was more or less a siren for his intricacies. She allowed us the ability to get to know him as the unicorn that he is. I don’t know that she truly shined as anything more than a muze. But any muze that could create the most beloved Black male in history right after MLK and Malcolm X…and Obama, well, she deserves some credit as being written and created perfectly for him. It helped that Nia Long had that one scene where she wasn’t wearing a bra and sitting in the window. I haven’t watched this movie in years and I remember that vividly.

4. Smokey (Friday)

Not sure anything has to be said here. I mean, it’s Smokey. He was the most outrageous character in an outrageous movie with more one liners than Mitt Romney impersonating a presidential candidate. His energy alone made him an automatic mainstay in quotables and our consciousness. Plus, he let us know that Red was going to cry in the car AND that he had mind control over Debo…two lines that I used to hear weekly in conversations with white people studying to become friars.

5. O’Dog (Menace II Society)

That damn Larenz Tate sure was diverse. He’s both the most beloved and one of the most concerning characters in Black movie history. O’Dog was “young, Black, and just didn’t give a f*ck” and had the nerve to almost curse in religious household. While we were afraid of his potential, we also respected him…especially for telling Kaine not to be “actin’ like a little ho” when it was time to put in work. He was the originator of the true Cali Swag district.

6. Nino Brown (New Jack City)

He probably could go to the top 2, but whatever. Nino Brown is one of THE scariest ninjas on the planet because he had only money on his mind to detriment of all else. Hell, he’s the impetus for three Lil Wayne album titles. A movie from 1991 made its presence felt in the late 2000s (never mind that Lil Wayne’s last name is Carter). Plus, I’ve been telling ninjas to cancel motherf*ckers ever since. Nino Brown was not his brother’s keeper. Well, at least not after he had to kill him.

7. Bishop (Juice)

He could probably be #1 on most lists of most iconic. Tupac played the HELL out of this role. So much so that we learned he was never in character; he WAS Bishop. He was crazy. And he didn’t give a f*ck. And for worse, a lot of young Black men could relate. That hightop step fade he had was a bad look though.

8. Doughboy (Boyz N The Hood)

Of all the characters in Boyz N The Hood, the only two that truly mattered were Dough and the cop that hated Black people. Ricky and Trey were cool, but Ricky’s best shot at iconic was getting shot, and I live in DC. That happens all the time. But Dough was a conflicted character who was struggling with his moral compass and just wanted love, you know while he wasn’t out there doing dumb sh*t. But those thug tears when he shot the ninja that killed Ricky? That was poetic. Plus he delivered the most significant lines in Black movie history: “either they don’t know, don’t show, or just don’t care about what goes on in the hood.” Classico.

9. Marcus Graham (Boomerang)

Okay, this list makes no sense. Because he could totally be #2 or #3 and I have him at #9. Reason being? Somehow I forgot that Boomerang even existed despite it being one of my favorite movies. I suck. So what? But Marcus Graham is THE man. Until he isn’t. And then is again once he learns how to be his true self and find happiness in the heart of a woman. Yadda yadda, he was who 90 percent of us envisioned being before Darius told us we all needed to become poets. Forget the corporate job, let’s all get notebooks!

10. Celie & Mister (The Color Purple)

Controversial double pick here, but seriously, them ninjas – hell the whole cast of this movie needs its own article – are the shining of example of life gone wrong and making both the best and worst out of the hand your dealt. Plus, Mister forced Celie to become the woman with “the fingers”.

Alright, that’s my list. What say you? And who do you think are the most iconic Black movie characters??","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-11-18","2021-11-21"
21/11/2024 16:39:38,21/11/2024 16:39:38,"Dating Advice Column: Affairs, Jealousy and The Reality of Being The Other Woman…","[[https://bit.ly/4fCjsO3 The Surprisingly Solid Dating Advice From Kanye West]]
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[[https://bit.ly/40TzwGF Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate]]
[[https://bit.ly/40Tzy1f Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man]]
[[https://bit.ly/4eHBBZB What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage]]
[[https://bit.ly/40TzA9n Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama]]
[[https://bit.ly/3CN9lqR Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love]]
[[https://bit.ly/4920rC6 The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off]]

This week I get real with a married woman jealous of her boyfriend’s fiancé.

Dear Tia,

I am married and I have an affair going on with my old school flame. Things worked out well between us. But now he is getting married and he keeps telling me that he’s doing it for his parents and the girl isn’t the kind he wants. I’m jealous and can’t handle my feelings. Should I still remain in touch with him post marriage or move on? – Still in Love

Dear Still in Love,

I’m confused about how things have worked out well between you and your sidepiece – you’re married and he’s engaged. That aside, it’s time for you to leave the man alone. You seem very concerned about whether or not he wants to get married, but that’s not really an issue. He’s a grown man and can make his own choices and the same goes for you. By deciding to enter into a relationship with someone you can’t fully commit to you’ve relinquished your right to be jealous. You have a husband – but you don’t have to be there. If you don’t want to be with your spouse you can leave. Your old flame’s soon-to-be wife should be respected. If you really want to be with this man split up with your husband and make a play for the one who has your heart. If not, you can’t have your husband and hers, so leave him – and his family – alone.","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2023-11-26","2023-11-29"
10/12/2024 11:11:23,10/12/2024 11:11:23,"Second Date Struggles: How to Keep the Momentum","
[[https://bit.ly/4irj6eW Do I Belong With You or Do You Own Me?]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3ZKlq9m What is Fidelity?]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Bi1GRh Aren’t Open Relationships All About Sex?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4iwSB7Z So, You Found Out He’s Lying…]]
[[https://bit.ly/49rPf1V What To Do With a Badly Behaving Lover?]]
[[https://bit.ly/3ZM0cIr Girls Runs The World?!]]
[[https://bit.ly/49uCa7Q The One Topic Men And Women Never Agree On]]
[[https://bit.ly/3ZIClt5 How To Date A Virgin]]

While your absurdo-reductionist model is elegantly simple, all nuance has been lost.

A girl who does exactly just that can be seen as a slut. A man will think: “Great! A good looking girl I can have sex with any time I want! I can call her up any time, not having to talk to her much at all, not having put in any effort towards relationship junk, and she’ll play with my balls.” Then any man with an ounce of brain will think: “How many other guys have been hitting it?”

This is why girls should not listen to guys for advice on how to land a good man for a real relationship. While I disagree with some premises of the “rules,” it is a way for girls to weed out men who are just looking for a booty call.

@LILGRL “The men who will not work for sex are the men for whom sex comes easily, and that is very, very, very few men.”

True. But even those men experience heartbreaks, because sex is not the same as love. And I agree with your retort to Obsidian, who thinks that men quickly lose interest if the girl does not “put out” quickly. This is completely wrong in my experience.

Since we’re focusing on the female side, and the long-term relationship angle, it’s counter-productive to focus on the mythical “alpha” who will commit to a girl after getting to have sex with her the first date because she’s just so amazing that she trumps all the other easy sex he could have.

To the men here: stop lying to girls to get them to give up sex easily.

Il Capo PERMALINK
October 19, 2009 5:48 pm
[quote]Call him much, much less than he calls you. This way you won’t annoy him with neediness, or chat with him like he’s a girlfriend.[/quote]

Instant race to the bottom. Most quality guys know to call less than their girls. If she uses the same rule, the following happens.

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13/12/2024 10:58:41,13/12/2024 10:58:41,"The Possibility Of Polygamy","[[https://bit.ly/49yWLYK How Pocket-Dialing Can C*ckblock You]]
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[[https://bit.ly/3ORrrL8 How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays]]
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[[https://bit.ly/4gcYLIz 5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master]]
[[https://bit.ly/49z3q5i Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?]]
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[[https://bit.ly/49BHSF9 Dating a Jersey Shore Fan]]
[[https://bit.ly/4gaO7lT Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day]]
[[https://bit.ly/3OXBtdG A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy]]

Not everyone is fit for a traditional relationship. If you find yourself wanting to break up with your partner in order to scope out online personals, consider the possibility of an open relationship instead. This of course depends on your significant-others nature. If she’s more of a conservative type, then ending it would be a lot easier. However, if you’ve already gotten a taste of your ladies’ alternative side, then suggesting the idea of an open relationship could be the best thing you’ll ever do. Below, we highlight some tips on how to get your girlfriend to take a walk on the wild side and try something new.

1. Touch Upon It - Without ever having to utter the word “polygamy”, ease her way into it by suggesting some quality adult entertainment. Once approved, pick out a porn flick that features a threesome and wait for her reaction. If the thought of having another player in the bedroom turns her on, proceed to the next step.

2. Get Her To Verbalize Her Fantasies – Once you’ve gotten a good grasp of your partners open nature, it’s time to get her to verbalize it. Ask her to tell you about her fantasies and describe them in detail. Not only will it be a bonding experience, but it will give her something to think about. As for you, start mapping out a way to make it happen.

3. Hit Up Swingers Clubs – If you’ve managed to get the ‘ok’ from your significant-other, take her to an introductory outing to a swingers club. Unlike popular belief, swingers are not looking for emotional attachment, merely a pleasurable sexual experience. Once she realizes that you are not looking to replace her but merely add a few ‘accessories’ to your sex life, she might suddenly become a lot more accepting.

4. Make Your Sales Pitch – When the time comes to sell your master plan, one of the most common mistakes men can make is only touching upon the points that will benefit you, and you only. By showing her that there are also positive aspects, she might be more inclined to go along with it. For example, she’ll finally be able to go on that business trip without worrying about the emotional baggage back home.

5. It’s All About Sex – Whatever you do, be sure to never let your argument drift too far away from sex. If for any reason your parter senses that you are interested in finding new online dates for emotional purposes, she’ll drop the idea faster than you can say “threesome”. Let her know that’s it’s all about sex and she might just have a change of heart.","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-12-23","2022-12-25"
19/12/2024 10:34:50,19/12/2024 10:34:50,"Decoding Relationship Myths: Fact vs. Fiction","[[https://bit.ly/3BDqpzx The Wingwoman]]
[[https://bit.ly/3VEN84T Change You Can Believe In: Yourself]]
[[https://bit.ly/3VJDLkO Quick to Pass Judgment]]
[[https://bit.ly/41z2ZGa Why Some People Hate Valentine’s Day]]
[[https://bit.ly/41GcK5f I’m Single on Valentine’s Day]]
[[https://bit.ly/41Eo164 My Secret Social Identity]]
[[https://bit.ly/49MGdNc What Exactly Is Dating? It’s Ambiguous.]]
[[https://bit.ly/41DssOE Why Love Is Not a First Sight Thing]]
[[https://bit.ly/41Ge48n Chivalry Makes Women Feel Good]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Bz0sRH Relationship Experts: Hate The Player Or The Game?]]
[[https://bit.ly/41ABtbl The Double Standard of Men and Women]]
[[https://bit.ly/3VGO20U The Double Standard of Men and Women]]
[[https://bit.ly/3BmqveY The Double Standard of Men and Women]]
[[https://bit.ly/41A5KHe 8 Ways to Make a Guy Not Want to Sleep with You]]
[[https://bit.ly/3VGgYGr 8 Ways to Make a Woman NOT Want to Sleep with You]]

I remember back in college actually having to convince some of my female friends the club wasn’t a good place to meet their boyfriend. To me … I was shocked that I had to actually argue this point. I thought it was clear to everyone that the club was for finding one night stands, jumpoffs, and bucket heads … not Ms. (or Mr.) Right.

Why is the club tailored to those looking for temporary love? What is it about the club that is poisionous to the creation of true love? Why is any relationship formed in the club almost always doomed to fail? Simple … the Club Mentality.

I can’t speak for everyone, every club, everywhere, but generally speaking, the club is the definition of … “the frenzy”. There is a lot of liquor involved, its an enviroment solely focused on social interactions between men and women. The music is too loud for conversation. Lights are dim and liquor flows freely. Its one of the few places you can walk behind a female, start grind on her ass … and not break any laws or be arrested. Rules, laws, and social norms that are upheld on “the outside” … simply don’t apply here. Its a different world.

A lot of guys go to the club to take a girl home with them. They are often the most aggressive too. In addition, as a guy, you know more girls are going to be open to conversation as opposed to the “real world” … so you don’t have to worry about “bothering” someone. While physically abusing a girl is still just as wrong, all those overly aggressive moves you had to retire are now allowed and often practiced. Also, for some reason, a fight is now a possibility. While at work your calm, on the road you let people pass you, but in the club … let someone scuff your sneakers or spill your drink … bout to be a misunderstanding!

For the ladies, you know that someone is going to disrespect you. Your ass will be grabbed, someone is going to pull your arm and not want to let go, and somebody is going to be overly aggressive about getting your number. A guy is going to come up to you and start “dancing” … which is closer to sex than anything else, but for some reason … tonight its OK. And while your open to conversation for any “cute” guy who is “acting right” … you also prepared a set of statement for those … “showing their ass”.
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08/01/2025 08:59:24,08/01/2025 08:59:24,"The pickup progression","[[https://bit.ly/4a8WpIB An Ode to Emily]]
[[https://bit.ly/3PqnoFX More Than Meets The Eyes]]
[[https://bit.ly/40ohyLQ Should I Tell Her How I Feel?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4aeydEU The Play Date]]
[[https://bit.ly/4a9vj3X Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride]]
[[https://bit.ly/4aofffb The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be]]
[[https://bit.ly/3PqnoWt When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma]]
[[https://bit.ly/3DG5ug2 Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others]]
[[https://bit.ly/4a5OThE Should You Settle?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4a3xgPz Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Poz1x5 Cheating is a Cop Out]]
[[https://bit.ly/4a5TuQU The Dance of Second Chances]]

When I was younger, I was painfully shy. The thought of approaching a girl was overwhelming and, consequently, I never did it. I used to tell myself that if only I could approach, I could get a girlfriend. I eventually overcame my shyness only to discover that approaching a girl wasn’t enough. I couldn’t just walk up and say hi and magically have a girlfriend. A lot of times, I mistakenly expected the girl to make a move if she was interested and often left conversations asking myself where it went wrong. Clearly, it went wrong when I decided not to ask for her number.

Now that I’m a bit lot older and more experienced, I know that there’s a series of steps to go through before you can have a date, let alone a girlfriend. I call these steps the pickup progression, and they are:

The approach. Before you can hope to date a girl, you must talk to her. Learning how to start a conversation is an important skill and starts you on your path.
The number. You need to get her number if you ever want to see her again. This is separate from the approach because it’s easy to start a conversation and then get cold feet about asking her out.
The call. The purpose of the first phone call is setup a date. Some guys can get numbers but then don’t have the guts to followup with a call. Call her!
The first date. Getting to this point is definitely exciting, but just because there’s a first date doesn’t mean there will be a second. One-on-one time is incredibly important.
The second date. If you’ve gotten to this point, then chances are you’re well on your way.
The cool thing about the pickup progression is that you can focus on moving forward one step at a time. If you’re horribly shy, then approaching a girl may be difficult enough. That’s fine. Take it slow and work on getting #1 down. Once you feel confident with the approach, move on to asking for a number. Each time you reach a step in the progression just focus on getting to the next step and don’t worry about the others.

If you make it all the way to call but don’t manage to get a first date (it happens, trust me), celebrate a little because you completed three steps. There are a lot of guys who can’t even complete one! The goal should be to get further and further into the progression and ultimately that second date. Once you’ve made it there, you’ve done everything right and the likelihood of a third date is quite high.

Try not to get down on yourself if you don’t make it all the way through the progression a few times. Even at 30 years old and a decent idea about how to approach women, it doesn’t always work out for me either. I always remind myself how much more upset I would’ve been if I didn’t approach (#1) and didn’t ask for her number (#2). It’s always better to know than to be left wondering. Now go practice.","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2023-01-27","2023-01-30"
22/01/2025 10:19:39,22/01/2025 10:19:39,"Chemistry of a Kiss","[[https://bit.ly/4jsGp8s When Do You Walk Away]]
[[https://bit.ly/40HiScz It Is All Facebook’s Fault…]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Cglp4i How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion]]
[[https://bit.ly/4au1kUw Are One Night Stands Bad?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4atLN7j The Truth About Free Dating Sites]]
[[https://bit.ly/4jBE7nQ Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails]]
[[https://bit.ly/4au87gZ Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere]]
[[https://bit.ly/40HQffC 26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/40Ht4SB Being Selfish in A Relationship]]
[[https://bit.ly/40EpmJo Signs of a Douchebag]]
[[https://bit.ly/40JgF0c Rules for a Skype Date]]

What is it about the scent of the inside of another person’s mouth that either makes for the melting away of hours or the distinct need to quickly pull away? This scent that over time can become a loving reminder, or a direct shot to the groin, or maybe a history best left to another lifetime.

Does the kiss, and maybe the scent – of the tongue, the neck below, the nose above – tell you immediately whether or not you can be with this person? Can this change? Is there an in-between – not bad, not good – that has the ability to shift in a direction you want it to, either knowing this person is good for you and you want so desperately to like them or knowing they are bad for you, and you want so desperately not to like them?

Does the memory of an electric kiss, maybe increased in intensity thanks to the changing shape of time, hinder chances in a new encounter, making this kiss decidedly less so? Or does falling into the present, just being there, shift not only the function of the kiss, but the enjoyment of the scent, the movement of the tongue, the strength, the weakness, the sound?

What really goes into making a kiss yummy – is it about ability, or just the flow of feelings, emotions, energy, chemistry – between two people?
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24/01/2025 10:42:41,24/01/2025 10:42:41,"The Post Break Up Love Letter","[[https://bit.ly/40wbtvB Why girls on dating websites don't know how to have a conversation]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WwLjaJ Why “we need to talk” should be happening in your relationship]]
[[https://bit.ly/3CwEBL3 Living With The One You Love]]
[[https://bit.ly/3CsYrH2 4 Ways To Be Really Rude While Instant Messaging]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WxFee7 How Emo Updates Hurt Your Relationship]]
[[https://bit.ly/40znReq How Straightforwardness Got Him the Date]]
[[https://bit.ly/4gihBO0 How to Keep Long-distance Relationships Alive]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WwrLDw How to Find Love in 2025]]
[[https://bit.ly/3E56ESx Is Religion Important When Dating?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4gfWn2V Keeping A Romantic Life As A Single Mom]]
[[https://bit.ly/4htKojh 7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over A Relationship]]

After ignoring GC’s texts and calls for a few days – and trust me there were a lot of them – I had a solid afternoon, a break from school and the grind and I did a lot of thinking and reflecting (I’ll write more about that later), but I was chilling at home by night and then I thought to myself, “I wonder if GC has mailed me a hand-written letter yet”. She had definitely tried everything else – email, Facebook, Skype, loads of calls and texts – telling me that she messed up, she loved me, please respond to her, etc, etc.

So, I went down to the mailbox… and sure enough she had.

I’ll post the letter here, just because I think it’s a solid letter and it shows that I have grown in my understanding of game over the years and also that game does work. It’s funny how after a couple of days of reflection, she’s able to pinpoint so many things and get so many things right.

Anyway, here’s the letter:

[Wonka],

I’m sorry and I know saying I’m sorry is getting old. It’s just words can’t express how I’m feeling right now. I wish I could take back everything I did because I really felt like we had something special. Everything we had is worth fighting for. For the first time in my life, I found a guy that didn’t let me control them and I love that. For awhile, I began noticing everything I hate about you like your attitude when you’re mad, your oblivion as to how all of your actions affected me, and the fact that you don’t spoil me…. but as I sit here trying to hide my tears because I am so ashamed of my actions, I realize that all of those things I hate about you just makes me want to love you more. Baby I want to be there for you. I want to be your support system, lover, friend, and honestly one day I hoped to be your wife. If you hate me I understand. I deserve that. I don’t know what the hell I was thinking. But I know getting through the rest of this life without someone like you in my life will be the worst punishment ever. I pray you find it in your heart to forgive me. I swear I never wanted to hurt you. I’m sure you lost all of the trust you had in me, but please let me make it up to you. I think we have a love worth fighting for. That’s why every time we break up I don’t give up. I just think I have a lot of growing up to do and I’d really enjoy it if you were there guiding me to where I need to be. I depend on you for a lot of things and I need you in my life. I don’t think now is a good time to be in a relationship but I know I don’t want to be without you. I love you and I miss you with every breath I take. When you sleep at my house I go smell the sheets and I don’t wash them until mommy makes me because I just want to smell your scent. [Wonka], you have taught me so much in little time and besides my HUGE fuck up and the distance, I really think this was the best relationship of my life. My hope is that we remain support systems for each other and in [time] you allow me to cheer you across that stage. Baby I just want to be your everything. I am so sorry I ruined everything. But I hope you know how much you mean to me. You’re the first guy whose made me cry so much so that’s gotta be worth something. You’re also the first guy that knows how to keep me attracted to them mentally and physically at the same time. You were right about me. I am afraid. I’m afraid of someone loving me so much and that I’ll never be able to do right by them. There is no excuse for my actions baby. I know this. I’m a weak little bia that doesn’t know how to act when opportunities present themselves. But I promise, if I can just have you as at least a friend, I’ll earn your trust again. If you have any love left for me, please return my calls or texts or write me a long email and say everything that’s on your heart and mind. Contrary to my actions, I do believe we have a love worth fighting for and I’ll fight as long as I have to.

- Your very sorry [nickname]

P.S. Don’t make me tattoo your name so you know its real

I think that some of her insights just go to further substantiate the points I highlighted the other day in my Relationship Game post.
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30/01/2025 10:45:34,30/01/2025 10:45:34,"Half the people on OkCupid think the earth is bigger than the sun...","[[https://bit.ly/42AdWYF Can You Date A Younger Man?]]
[[https://bit.ly/40MAkMZ The Qualities Of A Good Make Out Buddy]]
[[https://bit.ly/40NwR0D When Guys Should Pay On A Date And Why]]
[[https://bit.ly/42um78v Playing Games When Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hb1WRN How to Hit on Someone via Facebook]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hw6Ok3 What Not To Say On A First Date?]]
[[https://bit.ly/40Mg2Dc Why Hasn't He Called and What Should I Do About It?]]
[[https://bit.ly/40NwROb Getting Prepped for a First Date]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hrE6ki Defriending Your Ex On Facebook]]

I was looking around on people's profiles to see what questions they've answered and one of the questions is, ""Which is bigger, the sun or the earth?"" I think I've seen more people say, ""The earth"" than ""The sun"". I've wasted so much time trying to construct a well written message to get their attention. Next time I'll just jingle my keys.

UPDATE: Turns out there's some actual numbers behind this. While my anecdotal evidence seems about 50/50, you can see the real numbers here: Skip to bar chart the middle. The rest of the article is off topic.

I answered ""The Earth"" because that's a more interesting answer. The term ""bigger"" can refer to something other than size or mass. I pictured it as sort of a symbolic question.

Date Hater on October 28, 2010 10:25 PM said...
Well, hopefully you explained your position on the site. Most of the girls I see say, ""I guess?"" or, ""I don't know?"".

GodOfBloodnDarknessnKatanas on December 10, 2010 8:02 PM said...
I think it's funny when people choose Earth. I don't argue about mere points. I would rather use this to my advantage and simply take a chance that they really mean it in the way it was originally intended. In which case yes, I will jingle my bells of joy right in their face.

This is knowledge not intelligence. Difference. But still, I'm sure it can help....","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2021-02-04","2021-01-28"
31/01/2025 10:55:03,31/01/2025 10:55:03,"My Frame Control Goes Out The Window","[[https://bit.ly/3PUzibD Do You Reveal Too Much About Your Relationship?]]
[[https://bit.ly/4jAI7F3 Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating]]
[[https://bit.ly/3PTX0om Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days]]
[[https://bit.ly/3Cx3eau There really are NO BAD DATES!]]
[[https://bit.ly/4hA2IY5 How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love]]
[[https://bit.ly/3CzmynB A Dude Diner’s Doctrine]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WFjjSC Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes]]
[[https://bit.ly/3PX4ve9 Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WJVo4f Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments]]
[[https://bit.ly/3WFLKja How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment]]

So, if you saw the previous post, you know I was getting sick of Ghetto Club‘s nagging.

So, I decided I was going to let her chill for a few days and then when she hit me up I was going to be like “we need to talk” and then tell her about herself.

I did just that. She texted me late Monday night. I texted her back,

I’m a call u in a bit. I need to say something…

Right after I text her that, Short Model calls – perfect, after spending some time on the phone with her, I can call Ghetto Club, and she’ll never be the wiser.

So, I do just that.

I call Ghetto Club after I get off the phone.

“So, what is it you wanted to say to me?”

“I just wanted to tell you, you’ve been annoying me lately. It’s like you’re trying to pressure me to do shit, ‘you should take me to the movies, you should invite me to the club, why didn’t you text me back?, why didn’t you call me? why didn’t you invite me out?’ Do you hear what that shit sounds like. That was you last week. It rubbed me the wrong way. I actually thinking about letting you chill for awhile, but then I figured I’d tell you what’s up.”

“So, I annoy you?”

“Yes. Lately, last week. Too much nagging, that’s not how you get someone to want to hang out with you.”

“Ok. I appreciate it, I feel like I do something like that that annoys you, you should tell me, so I’ll know.”

“That’s what I’m doing right now. That’s why I’m telling you.”

“Okay. I appreciate it. I mean most guys never tell me shit, they just let me run over them until they get sick of it and disappear, so thanks.”

“Yeah. Obviously, I’d never let you run over me.”

“I see….”

We talk some more, it seems cool. She even starts to correct herself everytime she is about to say “should.” “You should… oh, wait, never mind, I’m not supposed to say that…… how about… [blah, blah, blah], see I can’t even be myself around you.”

“Sure you can, just be a nice, sweet version of yourself. I just want you to be a nice, sweet girl.”

“But, I’m not nice…”

“For me. Be a nice, sweet girl for me.”

…. conversation continues, until her mom comes into her room I guess. I start goofing around by sucking up to her mom through her, “tell your mom I said Hi Ms. [her name], how are you doing today? Having a lovely day, I hope!’” Shit like that. Blatant about it.

Ghetto Club relays the messages and then calls me a suckup.

Then, her mom leaves the room…. but, then she comes back ranting and raving about Ghetto Club’s sister. I actually hold for a bit, only because it’s her mom, before I tell Ghetto Club, “Hey! Hey! I really gotta go and work on my homework though…”

“Ok. I’m sorry.”

Minutes later, she texts me:

Her, 11:19 pm: My mom said sorry she just had to vent. And I’m sorry. She always does that :/ it gets a lil aggravating but she is my mom.. Anywho, if you have time call me back

Meanwhile, I’m not doing homework, but instead Facebook gaming like 5 different girls at the same time. After a few, I call her back. I don’t know why. I could’ve just left it at that, but I guess I still wanted to talk to her. I mean, I thought we were cool.

I call her back. She apologizes for her mom again, and then says, “You’re done with your homework already?”

“Naw, I’m not.”

“Oh, well, you don’t have to talk to me, I don’t want to get in the way of your GPA.”

“Don’t worry, I wouldn’t let that happen.”

“Oh, ‘you wouldn’t let that happen’?, huh? Okay….”

We talk some more, about who knows what. I don’t even remember. Then, she decides to revisit it.

I hear her voice get more somber too, like she’s actually sad….

“Wait, I just want to go back to this…. “

She brings it back up.

“What is it you want me to be?”

“A nice, sweet girl.”

“I am nice to you, what else do you want?”

“You should do stuff like cook for me.”

“Why? Is this a relationship?”

“No.”

“You’re not even my man! Why should I cook for you?”

“Because you want to?”

“I don’t cook for stangers.”

“Whatever. You know me. You know you want to cook for me.”

“How come I’m willing to take your advice, but you’re not willing to take mine?”

I laugh.

“See, you laugh at me. You don’t even take me seriously.”

I laugh some more.

“I just want you to be a gentleman. Do you even know what a gentleman is? Look it up in the dictionary.”

I change the subject.

She goes back to it. ”No seriously. I want you to look up gentleman in the dictionary.”

“Draggadorf….”

“I’m so nice to you too. You invite me somewhere, and then expect me to pay. Who does that? Look up gentleman, I don’t think me and you have the same definition of what a gentleman is.”

“Girl, we’ve already talked about this. We’re not talking about it again. Stop harping on old shit. See,” and here’s my first fumble, “this is why I didn’t want to talk about this shit on the phone.”

“What do you mean?”

“I would’ve rather have talked about it in person. What’s your schedule look like this week?”

“What day? Because, I don’t know the whole week.”

“Well, I’m too busy tomorrow probably, but we can chill sometime Wednesday, maybe.”

“On the holiday?”

“What holiday is Wednesday?”

“Umm….4/20?”

“Oh yeah. You should bring me something good.”

“You just said should.”

“Yeah, you should.”

“No… if I can’t say you should to you, you can’t say it to me.”

I laugh.

“I’m serious. How are you going to ask me to do something when you’re not even willing to do it yourself?”

And…. watch my frame crumble…..

“That’s not how this works.”

“Well, how does it work? It’s your way or the highway. Everything is your way, it’s a one way street with you. I have no input.”

“Girl, calm down.”

“No, you’re not being fair! You want me to be submissive, but what do you get to be? Huh, what are you going to be for me? What’s your role?”

“A muthafucking man.”

“No! I want you to be a gentleman!”

I laugh.

“See, you don’t even take me seriously.”

“Because you are too funny when you pretend to be angry.”

“You’re not taking me seriously, I’m not pretending.”

“Yeah… you should take a picture.”

“Everything is a one way street with you.”

“Whatever. You know you want to drive down this one way street.”

“I did, I am driving down it, but I’m about to have a head on collision.”

“Whatever, anyway, what time are you free Wednesday?”

“No time now…”

“Oh, really?”

“Yeah… not for you. Everything is all about you. You’re trying to control me.”

“Girl, I’m not trying to control you, do you realize all that I do for you?”

“What? What do you do?”

“I give you my time. I hang out with you, talk to you on the phone, text you…”

“I do all of that with you too… “

Phone conversation gets quiet. She tries to call me out for trying to control her. I say I’m not trying to control her, but I don’t really elaborate, we just sit there in silence. I’m stammering now… I can tell she’s actually pissed and isn’t going to say much anymore. I’m still trying to save a conversation. I don’t know why….

“Girl, I do do shit for you, stop acting like I don’t. Why you think everytime I pick a place to hangout, I pick it in the [blank] area? Because that’s in between the both of us, so it’s fair for both of us.”

“But it’s you. It’s always you making the decisions. You never ask for my input!”

“We’re not talking about this anymore… I told you how you can make a suggestion.”

“Don’t you realize I’m not submissive! I’m used to getting my way. I’ve been treated like a princess since I was 13. I don’t know what world you live in, but you need to come back to reality! You always have to get your way in your world, it’s always your decision.”

“Girl… calm down.”

“No, it’s all about you…I can’t say should but you can. What kind of sense does that make, you’re not even willing to do for me what I’m willing to do for you. I like hanging out with you, but I just don’t know if I can do this anymore…. it was nice knowing you…”

I don’t say much after that, just stuff like “Draggadorf….. “, her name, her whole name, stuff she keeps saying “yes” to, but at the same time neither of us are talking. Just sitting in silence. Eventually, I get off the phone, “Alright, I really do have to do my homework though”

“Goodbye”

“Bye.”

I get off the phone, and I’m so pissed off. That’s opposite of what I was trying to do today. I vent on Twitter a bit and decide that it’s over, and then I block her number on my phone, so I can’t receive texts or calls from her anymore – just because I don’t trust myself to actually ignore her if I don’t do that…

She goes on Facebook and writes this as her status:

your love by diddy dirty money today…im feelin really unappreciated tomorrow. people suck…. thats why its best to live a numb life!

Of course it’s about me. She’s “unappreciated” or whatever….

Then, this happens…. some dude comments on her status, read for yourself the conversation that follows:

Random Dude: Damn skippy!

Ghetto Club: JAY SEAN! i was thinkin bout you today and got sad :[ you act like you dont love miss keri no more...

Random Dude: Hahah I'll always love my miss keri! Too bad she's been MIA since forever. Loll

Ghetto Club: sayyy what? i am not MIA. thats youu. everytime i ask about you somebody says oo i havent seen himm!

Random Dude: Hahahha whaa? I'm always on campus! Stop hiding from me :(

Ghetto Club: ya yaaa... ok lets hang out wednesday... lol go to [campus event]. i need points or i wont graduate on time… :/

Random Dude: Ahahhahaha girl your gonna be stuck at [school] foreverR! Lmao. Ok sounds good then lunch after?

Ghetto Club: ooo sureee! seeing as how we still have YET to go get lunch!!!

Random Dude: You bailed on me on our last lunch date!!!

Ghetto Club: nu uhhhh! i just had to make sure them jello shots were tasty…lol it was a very important task :]

Random Dude: Still counts as bailing…

Ghetto Club: nooo bc it was for your benefit my love! its ok.. redo this wednesday!

Random Dude: Hahah fine! Where to bosslady?

Ghetto Club: hmmm idc you can pick!

Random Dude: What your buying?? Ok cool :)

Ghetto Club: yea with the whole 2 bucks in my bank acct! can we say BALLIN!!!

Random Dude: Hahah shoot that’s a chicken patty with one pickle on the side! Baller!

Ghetto Club: o yeaaaa. i likes to do it big!

Wow. Is she fucking serious? On a status about me, she’s going to set up a date with a dude and give him the same Wednesday I just tried to chill with her on. Naw…. that’s just all the way disrepectful. Yeah, her fucking number is staying deleted.

I’m done.

Sucks that this feels like a breakup almost and we weren’t even together like that. I definitely wanted to keep her around longer, but I just feel like the same “you’re not a gentleman, you need to treat me like a princess! How come we never do what I want to do?” drama was just going to keep coming up.","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-01-27","2022-01-29"
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For the record. I love Feffing, and my deceased got it any time any where. My husband now, every night. So it’s not that I am prude, or don’t like sex. I am smart. This thread had to be one of the most depressing ones I have read in months. So sad. -Stephy.

I don’t see any red flags at all! I see huge Red Banners Floating across the sky!!!! My first thought is this -the guy probably had a very serious relationship that went south badly leaving him crushed. He sounds like he is moving at warp speed so as not to feel bad about the demise. Some people think the best way to get over a bad breakup is to jump head first with complete abandon into a new relationship. In rare instances, people do make it work when they jump in like this but I agree with Moxie how quickly it began I’m guessing it will burn out as quickly too.

For people old enough to look back on a successful relationship, one of the most wonderful things is to remember the beginning with all it’s uncertainty and magical moments built over time that propel you forward in the relationship. Moving at warp speed you miss out on one of the most cherished aspects of a long term relationship. I realize at 32 that might be impossible to comprehend but give yourself the gift of time. If you are meant to last, taking it slowly will only confirm what you feel in your heart.

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Question: I work with television and I went on a date last night with a guy who is a struggling actor. We worked together on a shoot followed by conversations over texts. He asked me out and I met him for a date. We had a nice chilled out time over drinks. We had long conversations related to work, our families, likes, dislikes etc. At the end of the date bill came and he didn’t even try to pay for it. I ended up paying for both of us as i wanted to avoid awkwardness. I don’t mind splitting the bill but he didn’t even offer to pay anything. He seemed to be a nice guy but this not paying at all have been such a turn off. Previously I have had experiences of spending money on my boyfriends without them paying. What should I do, should I meet him again or call it off. Please help I am confused.
Age: 27

There isn’t a guy reading this that feels sorry for you, but that’s neither here nor there.

The first red flag that this guy was broke as fuck was the fact that he was an actor. I zip right past those SAG/AFTRA guys on Bumble. LOL SAG AND AFTRA. They probably played a waiter with one line on an episode of Girls. Anyway, NO you should not call this loser again. What’s wrong with you that you’re even considering that?
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February 2nd, 2013 at 10:28 am
Two years ago i was recovering from a bad breakup. I was living in a new town and country, working for a shitty company. Six months after the bad breakup, a new coworker (which i had a crush on) began to court me. It all happened very fast. After two months i lost my job and he got relocated to another city. At the time, the best thing a I could do was to return to my country for a while until things got more settled. Just a few days before i was leaving, he proposed to me and promised we he would do anything possible to be together again. The first month we were separated he called a lot. From the second month and after not so much. He would “dissappear” a lot and told me shady excuses. I was super anxious, sad and stressed (obviously not good and healthy) because i knew that he was acting weird. Two-three months after i broke it off and was completely heartbroken. That was the last time i spoke with him. Not even a month passed and i saw he was with another girl on his Facebook profile pic, younger that me (i am 29, she is 20). Then i found out he ALSO proposed to her after only 4 months (just a little more that he did with me). THEN i found out they were getting married that same year, and NOW i think i found out he already has a baby with her. Lol,,you can imagine my feeling of betrayal and lesson learned. I still haven’t had a relationship after that and will never put my trust in someone so fast.

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Lola Says:
February 2nd, 2013 at 12:09 pm
I remember he mentioned having babies a lot, in that such short amount of time. Whenever i got upset that he wasn’t following through while we were separated he used to act like the victim and say that i was crushing all this “dreams” of having a family, blah blah blah. What a coincidence that he found someone so fast , got married and got a baby,,,hmmm,,,;-)

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As a single woman, I am looking for someone who is unattached and around my age, or a bit older, and I am not looking to have kids. Tinder seemed like a good idea, but I realize now I have to vet very carefully. Word to all of you kids, male or female: Just because some guy or girl online tells you that they have an “open relationship” with their spouse doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s wise to be careful before you find yourself facing an angry spouse in the driveway (which happened to a woman I know, and she was standing there with her young son).

CarChases6 years agoReply
Ummmmm…Tinder is for hookups.

DeeGee6 years ago
Older people like to hook up too, I just don’t want some angry wife waiting for me in front of my house with a Ginsu knife. Only single or divorced men for my hookups!

CarChases6 years ago
I disagree! I know a few people who are dating after meeting on Tinder. I feel like there are all kinds of people looking for different things on dating sites and because Tinder doesn’t have any info, people assume it’s just for hooking up. I get more hook up requests on OkCupid than I do on Tinder.

Emily Macintosh5 years ago
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I told him we’d meet for lunch. My plan was to shame him by calling him a bad father/husband and then threaten to expose him with the text messages he had been sending me.

Instead, we sat around, chatted and sipped sangria at a great Cuban restaurant. It turns out I didn’t have the balls to confront him.

Things only got stranger after that. Two days after our “lunch date,” his wife contacted me asking for lessons because she wanted to get back in shape. I agreed. Now I train Mr. Married every Friday and Mrs. Married on Thursdays. Awwwk-ward. Every week, he uses a new tactic to get me to go out with him again and she expresses her deepest love and commitment to him.

I am definitely swimming in the Bermuda Triangle. As a woman, I feel obligated to tell her that he is a scumbag, but I am also afraid that she’ll be angry and blame me. (I am no fighter and prefer to keep all of my teeth.) I would want to know if my guy wasn’t being true to me, but lots of women tend to blame “the other woman” in situations like these.

If you were in my situation, would you tell Mrs. Married?

I am officially, unofficially implementing a new rule for coupled people everywhere. Please, please, please if you are spoken for, you must mention it within five minutes of having a flirty conversation with me. I am forever meeting men in social situations (I’m sure ladies do this too, so feel free to chime in guys) who will sit and talk to me for 15 minutes, half hour, sometimes even longer, will go so far as to get my number or give me theirs and wait until the very last second that we’re saying good bye to inform me that they are in a relationship or even married. On occasion, these guys have neglected to mention said girlfriend/fianceé/ wife until our first — what I believed to be — date! Come on now, people! Not cool.Out of respect for me, the single woman who wants to meet an available, unattached man, and your significant other at home, have the decency to let me make the right choice. Let me walk away (or at least keep the conversation on the friendly tip) after five minutes when I find out you have a wife and two kids waiting for you at home.
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March 22, 2011 at 2:46 am #
Who knew this would stir such the hot debate? Cali, I always enjoy reading your blog. I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little over three years and sort of fell into my current relationship. I may not be the best to speak on dating today, but I can speak from the perspective of a girl whose “courtship” carried through into the wonderful relationship I have today.

He’s a traditional Texas boy (according to him, so no one jump down my throat) who opens doors, buys dinners, fixes my flat tires, etc., etc. I can’t speak for any other girls out there, but I’ve offered to pick up the tab since day one – and I meant it. For me, we didn’t go on our first dinner date until about two months into the relationship. I think this is another changing detail of dating the 20s – it seems to be a group activity where friends all meet up at a bar and if you couple up, you get drinks. Dinner seems to be a fleeting idea of the past (at least where I live currently).

Needless to say, my guy paid every time. He picked up the tab for me and the girlfriends I was with. I would never expect anyone to do the same, but I can say that his genuine generosity and sincere interest in not only me and my interests, but the friends I surrounded myself with is one of the endless reasons that I’ve fallen for him. It’s not about being taken care of for me, it’s the small acts of kindness that he’s always put forth. We’re in a serious, committed relationship and like the point Cali is trying to make, it’s not just about the money or equality or status or any other angry reason readers are coming up with. Plain and simple, it’s an act of kindness and genuine interest. This goes both ways, guys and girls. If you reach for your wallet, mean it.

That’s my 2 cents.

Cali Bradshaw
March 22, 2011 at 5:14 am #
Hi Katy – Thank you for your two cents! I, for one, did not know this was such a hot debate. As someone who has only been in this situation once, I don’t think there are really THAT many guys out here who are so angry about this topic. However, I seem to have brought all of them out here, didn’t I?
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Cali Bradshaw
January 20, 2012 at 5:07 am #
I used to respond to these comments, however I have lost interest in doing so. You clearly didn’t read the post or the comments. No one is dating because they can’t afford dinners nor is anyone saying guys have to pay. This is simply some insight for guys who seem unclear on how a lady likes to be treated. The anger that you and a few guys have expressed over this is both pathetic and humorous. I do wish you luck in finding (and keeping) your special someone. I hope she has low self esteem.

neoParadise
March 29, 2012 at 10:19 pm #
(Disclaimer: If you read just one sentence of this comment make sure it’s the last sentence!)

Actually at least some women use first dates to get free dinners –> http://articles.businessinsider.com/2011-11-29/news/30453560_1_match-com-roommates-japanese-restaurant
After that read I went through the first dates that never had a follow up in my head.

Basically I think you have an egocentric world view. You want the best of both worlds. You want the fifties with its chivalry without the staying at home and being a homemaker-part. You want the new millenium with its endless opportunities in the professional world without responsiblities that come with it. All so that every part of your life is taken care of in exactly the way you want it – no compromise.
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UGH! says:
February 13, 2012 at 5:41 pm
She had a long term dating relationship with I think 2 different guys. The relationship ended, they remained friends/kept it cordial. The guy(‘s) later met someone & married. The wife was not accepting of this friendship. Actually I don’t blame them & the guys were stupid for not knowing this without being told.

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DC Phil says:
February 13, 2012 at 3:00 pm
You might be right. There’s some truth to the stereotype of the crazy cat lady, which is more common than the crazy dog lady. That is, she has a pet, but no man.

I hold all women over 30 suspect who have more than one pet. One reason is because the pet fulfills her nuturing need, but expects very little in return except being fed, petted, brushed, housed, and walked. It’s a one-sided relationship.

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FORWARD:
I don’t have a degree in marriage and family counseling, I am not a relationship or dating expert, I have no credentials to talk of these subjects other than my own observations. In no way are they to be taken as facts, they are just my own theories.
Okay, now that’s out of the way, here goes my rant on cheating men…
Before I get an angry responses from anyone…let me assure you that I love men (read “How to make a man feel like a man”). I think that they are wonderful and would hate to live in a world without them. I love their scruff, their large rough hands, their crooked smiles, their simplistic view of the world, their ability to see situations so differently from women, thus offering an often refreshing take on things. They are beautiful in their imperfections.

Despite this I’m realistic about them. They have flaws (as do women) and I wonder if they are capable of monogamy. I look at my father who despite not always being in the happiest of marriages has always remained faithful, at my uncles, and older generations in my family and have no doubt in my mind that they have stayed true to their wives. It’s my own generation that I have problems with.

Somewhere along the way we started to feel entitled to an easy life; a life that we don’t have to work for. Relationship is work, maintaining happiness is work. More and more I see people who are unwilling to work to make their love work.

“I do not think there are any men that are faithful to their wives.”
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

My disillusionment with male fidelity started early on. After watching girlfriend after girlfriend cry herself to sleep after the man she lost her virginity to threw her away I swore that would never be me. So I set out to make my first time a one night stand with no emotional connection. Yes, I know, how very jaded of me. The man I lost my virginity to was a married man with children (which I didn’t know at the time). I knew him one night and it was a great night but I was left feeling pretty crappy about this mans poor wife and children.

My “love” in college was a man/child with a girlfriend. The funny thing was that we never made a secret of our relationship. All our friends knew about us, we would even hang out with his girlfriend sometimes, laughing at how she had no idea what was going on with us. To be honest I didn’t like the girl and didn’t feel bad in the slightest about sleeping with her boyfriend.

I have had dangerously flirty relationships with more than one married man that included sexting, emails, visits without the wife knowing, stolen kisses, and secret looks. I have not slept with them, and won’t. While the zing and lust that they create is wonderful I will not knowingly sleep with a married man.

These men sometimes have seemingly happy relationships, then again I’m not in them and only the 2 people in the relationship really know. From the outside these marriages seem to be going well. They have the house, the job, the kids, and sure things may have gotten a bit scheduled and predictable, but their wives haven’t let themselves go, they seem to still love and desire their man…so why do they wander? Sadly, when asked, these men have simply answered, “Because I can.” They seem to think their wives will never find out or if they don’t won’t leave because of the children or their low self esteem. This is sad, but probably true.

“It is not difficult to deceive the first time, for the deceived possesses no antibodies; unvaccinated by suspicion, she overlooks lateness, accepts absurd excuses, permits the flimsiest patching to repair great rents in the quotidian.” John Updike

It’s scary that men justify their infidelity so casually. Just…I do it because I can, because she won’t find out, because if she did she wouldn’t leave me. I have heard men say they were tempted to cheat because they felt under appreciated by their women, others who are unhappy with the quantity and quality of their sex life, and still some who say it’s because their woman is too busy with work or kids to pay attention to them. To these men I say….grow up! Sorry if you don’t like it…but if you can’t open up a line of communication to your woman, express your feelings about these issues, and try to work them out…then what the hell are you doing married?

To those men who have talked to their women about these issues and have been unable to work out solutions and are still unhappy…well that’s harder. As stated before I am afraid our generation has taken for granted that things will be “easy” for us. We have to work for happiness. I never want to say to any male friend or lover “leave your woman” but I suppose sometimes that is what will happen. I won’t pretend to know what goes into making a marriage work…I’ve never been married and feel no desire to ever get married…but I’m pretty sure that such a blasé attitude towards unfaithfulness isn’t a good omen for a relationship.
“I’ve looked on many women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me.” Jimmy Carter

I’ve often studied the women in these relationships, wondering if they feel a distancing from their husbands, if they suspect that he’s cheating on them and from what I can see, they don’t. (This, by the way, scares the shit out of me and is one of the main reasons I never want to marry…I never wanted to be that woman!) I don’t always know the wife, but there have been situations where I have. Not well mind you, but I’d seen them here or there, sometimes had conversations with them, and even been a guest in their house. They always seemed happy, staring adoringly at their husbands from across the room with no apparently concern that he might not be faithful to her.

There have been a number of men in my past (some not too distant) that I have been involved with who have had girlfriends. After dabbling in the dangerous flirtations of married men, a guy with a girlfriend seems like small game. There is still a thrill there and none of the guilt of breaking vows. I usually have no problem sleeping with a man who has a girlfriend. I would make this okay in my mind by saying, “If she can’t keep him happy that’s her fault.” I know this is a crappy thing to think. To the best of my knowledge I have never been cheated on…and maybe my low number of serious relationships and higher number of casual sex partners is a way to protect myself from it. Who knows? All I know is that if my man cheated on me I would be absolutely destroyed and if the girl came at me with that excuse I’d probably deck her.

I’m aware of how this makes me sound. I know it’s a sad reflection on the way I view and value myself…trust me…I do (and it will be talked about in many a future blog as I try to remedy this issue). I know people will judge me on this behavior; don’t pretend you won’t and don’t feel bad about it. I probably deserve to be judged for this behavior, and all I can say is that I’m working on it.
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Today Drake called me “missy” in a blog comment and though it was meant to be snarky I couldn't help being delighted. Then I got a phone call from my cousin where he came back at me with his normal, “listen, Lady!” and I had to laugh. I laughed because something about being called anything but Julie (my name) or Jewels (what most people call me) just makes me a bit giddy.

I love pet names! I know some women get moody about the terms of endearment and nicknames that their men give them. I don't care if you call me ""turd face"" as long as you do it sweetly. Okay, well maybe I do mind “turd face” but most names I find absolutely adorable.

I have been called a multitude of names in my life…

· Butt much-which is my father’s name for me. Isn’t he so sweet?
· Sweetie, honey, baby, Hun, and babe-the old standby’s
· Lady (though mostly by my cousin)
· J, Jazz (my initials are JAZ), Jewels, Jewel, and Julieson (mostly by friends)
· Jalana (pronounced Ja-Lay-Na) which is a combination of my name mixed with my sister Alana’s (pronounced A-Lay-Na) that my mother uses for any of us 4 girls despite the fact that Nicole and Gina’s names are nowhere in there.

I love when I am in relationships and get a pet name. It is so freaking cute. Short of calling me “mommy” I find it sweet and sexy. You want to call me (and I have been called all the following) Pumpkin, Pudding, Sweetie Pie, Sweetheart, Lover, Tigress ;-), Goddess (yes one ex called me this constantly), Princess, Angel, Dear, Darling, Agape Mou (“my love” in Greek and a personal favorite of mine), Baby Girl then go right ahead. In no way do I find these names condescending, offensive or diminutive. I eat them up.

Here is where I have no problem being coddled, cuddles, and made to feel precious. I love feeling girlie and protected. Something about these pet names makes me feel cared for, provided for, treasured, and absolutely adored by my man. I have friends that hate them. They will bite back with, “I’m not your baby!” or with some argument about not wanting to feel belittled.

I am a strong, confident and secure woman and I love being babied by my man with sweet terms of endearment. I love him calling to say, “Hi, baby. I was thinking about you and had to talk to you.” Or “You are my Goddess…what would I do without you?” I love the confidence and familiarity they project. When a man can be sweet enough to call you a pet name with no sense of reservation in front of his friends…well that makes me want to pull him into the nearest room and show him just how sexy I think that is. If he is hanging with his friends and I bring in some beers and he grabs my hand on the way out to pull me down for a quick kiss and says, “Thanks, Angel.” Well…he is getting lucky later that night.

I also love the term ""little lady"" or ""woman"". I have no problem with somebody calling me ""woman"". As in, ""Listen up, woman!"" I can't even get mad...if we are fighting I immediately don't care anymore. I am sure in the right situation I would be livid if somebody called me, ""woman"" but I haven't found it yet. I think it's adorable when older gentlemen call me, ""darlin"" or ""sweetie""...come on...that is straight up adorable!

How do you feel about pet names? Do you have one or one for your significant other that is cute and unique that you want to share? Do you have an aversion to them? Do you use them only in private settings and not in public? I’d love your take on this.

I also have to thank all my followers because I have made it to 70 followers and am so excited! I am so happy that I have been able to blog about an array of topics from online dating, cancer, music, sexy men, drunken rants, and most recently birth order (I LOVED all the feedback for that one) and you have rolled with each topic without ever saying to me, “What the hell were you thinking!” So thank you for letting me be me and supporting my writing no matter what I am writing about. I appreciate it so very much.","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2022-03-31","2022-04-02"
26/03/2025 17:30:23,26/03/2025 17:30:23,"Ms. Honeybabylovelylumps","[[https://bit.ly/4j6gN0p How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage]]
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Pet names can sometimes be a touchy topic, as the value, efficacy and general feelgoodiness of any pet name is purely subjective and based entirely on the arbitrary criteria of the individual being pet-named.

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In general, whether or not I enjoy being called a pet name in French is determined entirely by whether I find the pet-namer horribly sleazy or gloriously attractive.

Given my history with the parisian male population, which is a separate species that I like to call parisianus asstardanus, it should come as no surprise that there are precious few French pet names that I find particularly appealing.

French pet names I like

ma belle
mon coeur (I’ve never been much of a romantic, but I have to say that “my heart” really has a certain ring to it.)
princesse (This is not to be confused with the possessive “MA princesse”, as I don’t intend to be anyone’s princess for as long as I can help it. It implies a certain sappy dependency that I find cringeworthy.)
cherie (Harmless. But again, not to be confused with the possessive “ma cherie”, which I have decided that I dislike for no good reason)=
French pet names I don’t like

mon amour (A man needs to EARN the right to call me this.)
mon ange (Ugh. Hate it hate it hate it. Someone who calls me his angel must surely be cheating on me.)
ma biche/bichette (Firstly, I’m no doe. Secondly, it sounds too much like “bitch”.)
ma puce (Who wants to be called a flea??)
mon petit chou (Everyone knows that cabbage is evil.)
There are some contradictory overlaps between this french list and the following english list. I know. But I don’t care. I told you that this was going to be arbitrary.

English pet names I like:

beautiful (It makes me feel beautiful.)
gorgeous (It makes me feel gorgeous.)
my lady/milady (It makes me feel like a genteel lady.)
sugar (Those of you who follow me on Twitter know that this one, said with a southern drawl, melts me on the spot.)
babe (I am indeed a total babe!)
my love (Nobody has ever actually called me this except some Irish women in a totally platonic way, but I don’t think that I’d mind of a man were to call me that.)
honeybunch (Come on, it makes me laugh! I can’t help it)
English pet names I don’t like:

my beauty (That’s what you call your car.)
honey (Sticky. Icky.)
baby (Think about it. It’s creepy!)
baby girl (Creepier.)
babycakes (Ew.)
woman (This is fun as a joke, but call me this seriously, and I will likely hurt you.)
slut (Do I even need to explain this one?)
dear/my dear (This sounds patronizing. In a great-aunt kind of way.)
And thus I now (abruptly) conclude my random post about pet names because snack time absolutely cannot wait.

What about you all? This topic is clearly subjective. Feel free to discuss your feelings about pet names in the comments section below. Bust my balls if you want. I’m feeling feisty today!","Réunion d'un Groupe de travail","2021-03-26","2021-03-28"
27/03/2025 17:48:59,27/03/2025 17:48:59,"My first social circle","[[https://bit.ly/4j71lkI Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love]]
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“one of the dudes at one point was like ‘this goddamned anchor baby beaner,’ and Ted throws his head back, ‘yeah, all right, gomer pyle, bob hope eat a dick whoever the fuck you are…’ and everyone laughed their asses off.”

lol this is how a lot of AMOG types interact. It’s basically shit-testing the other guy and seeing if he’s going to be a bitch and let it get to him, or if he’s going to laugh and throw it back in their face…then they end up best buds because they have a mutual respect for eachother.

It was really a bunch of mind-fuckery when I first started hanging out with other dudes and seeing this stuff first-hand. And I had the same reactions you probably did where you’re like “wtf?? This is insane, I don’t get what just happened at ALL…I don’t even WANT to get it, this is stupid to me”. But now I can handle myself the way Ted does and I understand a lot of this is just about respecting the other guy and earning his respect.

There was this one Natural dude in my first social circle who would alllways try to tool me and compete with me and challenge me to getting girls against him etc. etc. And I thought he was the biggest fucking asshole for the longest time lol Then one day I realized what was going on was that he actually respected me and just assumed I wouldn’t be phased by any of that and that I was on his level…it was because I was at the “fake it” stage of “Fake it till you make it”, so OUTWARDLY I was projecting that I was on his level, but interally I wasn’t at all, so he was reacting to me like I was on that level and had no idea I was faking it and he was actually frustrating me lol

Again down the road you “make it” and now when I meet guys like that, they love me, because I can go back and forth with them and my frame is stronger and they respect me. And because I understand the dynamics of what’s going on, I actually don’t mind it and laugh about it sometimes and have fun with it, instead of being confused and annoyed that that’s how guys are.

“Is there something to his theory, or is Ted insan”e…or both?”

Ted is definitely insane, but you’d be surprised at the insights you can learn now and then from the insane lol :)

“I was planning on not going out, but there was an event at a club that 90% of the school social circle were attending. So…why not?”
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02/04/2025 15:27:48,02/04/2025 15:27:48,"In like with like?","[[https://bit.ly/3Rwg1Og My Dead First Husband Is Haunting My Marriage]]
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After a few weeks of mentally wanting to give Capt Awesome a chance, I finally had to admit to myself: I'm just not that into him. The attraction just isn't there. It doesn't help that he sometimes makes a facial expression that evokes Don Knotts -- aka, Ralph Furley from ""Three's Company"":

We haven't seen each other in nearly a week, and aside from a ""Happy Thanksgiving"" text, haven't been in touch. I thought about how I felt during our brief ""honeymoon"" period: I liked the attention he lavished on me, and how thoughtfully he planned our dates. But did I like him? I wasn't sure. I had a hunch that I was just enjoying the feeling of maybe liking someone, rather than liking the actual person. Does that make sense?

Now -- it seems like we may be having the mutual fade-away. I feel like maybe we'll have ""the talk"" soonish -- or maybe not? I'm actually fine with it either way. I generally prefer the ""closure"" of the talk, but if another week or so goes by with no communication -- well, there's the answer.

In the meantime: I've had two dates with someone new. It's too soon to say I'm feeling giddy about him, but he does make me smile. We have another date planned for this week -- maybe I'll have a blog name for him after that. A nice touch: we met on Jdate, but it turned out that we already knew some people in common -- he went to high school with one of my very good friends.

And -- blast from the past -- I'm seeing New Guy this week for a belated birthday dinner. Refresher: New Guy and I dated for a few months about a year ago, stayed in touch now and then, and I realized that I still had feelings for him. (d'oh! Freudian slip? Just now I typed out ""HAVE feelings"" rather than the past tense ""HAD feelings"". Interesting!)

Anyway -- the plan is for a casual, platonic, birthday dinner -- he told me on the phone that we have loads to catch up on. (""Oh, you just remembered that you're crazy about me?"", I thought hopefully) It will be lovely to see him -- maybe we'll have one (or more) of those fabulous, passionate kisses -- well, that wouldn't be so terrible...","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-04-29","2022-04-30"
10/04/2025 17:24:32,10/04/2025 17:24:32,"Stupid insecurities","[[https://bit.ly/3FVZIYL There’s No Such Thing as a “Good” or “Bad” Marriage]]
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I feel like I’ve gone from happy and optimistic about TC… to insecure and doubting.

He’s been away for work all this week, and he barely e-mailed and didn’t call once (I left him a message midweek). This is quite a departure from his last business trip, when we e’d just about every day and talked a few times during that week.

Yes, I know how busy business trips can be, blah blah blah… but if you really want to call or text, you’ll find the time to do it.

So many questions in my mind, as I try to think, did I do something to turn him off?
Maybe we spent too much time together last weekend?
Maybe some recent pics I sent him felt too boyfriend / girlfriend-ish?
Maybe he's simply lost interest?

Logically, I'm trying to think, a few days without him calling really isn't that much. But now I'm in ""preparing for the worst"" mode. Ugh. I can't help but think, just when I've finally met someone great... it's going downhill already. (“cue the violins, Drama Queen…”)

We have plans this weekend, will just have to take a temperature then. And if it does end? Yes, that would suck, but I have to remind myself – it certainly wouldn’t be the end of the world. Wish me luck.","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-04-28","2022-04-29"
15/04/2025 17:44:12,15/04/2025 17:44:12,"A Tragedy","[[https://bit.ly/4icCU4f We Lived Separate Lives]]
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Every good One Date Wonder has a few sneaky tricks up her sleeve. In my case, more than a few really. I have some big sleeves, ok? Anyway, I usually wouldn’t give them away to the entire internets, but his is just too good of a story to pass up. So here is just one of my little tricks: I have a secret account on OKCupid that I use to scope people out without them knowing I’m doing it. Sounds juvenile, but it has serious benefits. I can browse anonymously. I can look at people I know. And no one ever has to know I’m doing it.

Due to the top secret nature of said account, the profile isn’t filled in and no one ever messages it. Or no one did, until last week. I already knew there must have been some desperation involved as this person had sent a message to someone who had zero personal information of any kind, no basic stats, and no picture. I’m not even sure how he found the profile, to be honest. But whatever, he did. The message was a little sad but being the sick voyeur I am, I went to look at the profile.

It was even sadder. He is 36, tragically short, and whines throughout the entire profile about how no one ever answers him. It was revolting. And then for the cherry on our little tragic sundae, he announces that he’s a virgin. A short, whiny, lonely, 36 year old virgin. And we wonder why no one responds?

At first I just laughed. Okay, I’m mean. I actually went back a few times to laugh. It was sort of funny, you know? Then I thought, maybe he really doesn’t know. I mean, he can’t help being short. And depending on beliefs (and availability) he can’t really just run out and lose his virginity. But he can stop the incessant whining, and not announce the lack of experience up front. He’d be a little less pathetic then, you know? Of course you know. Apparently everyone knew but him!

So…. I told him. Yep. I wrote back and told him. I sweetly announced that I was going to try to help out and I told him how unattractive the desperation was and how perhaps he should not declare his virginity right up in the front like that. I almost regretted it when I hit send, but then…. well…. I didn’t. Didn’t regret it, that is. I totally hit send.

He, of course, wrote back. He actually accepted the constructive criticism and changed his profile up according to my suggestions. Don’t misunderstand me, I still find it to be a rather tragic sundae. But at least it lacks whipped cream and a cherry on top, you know? I mean someone less savvy than myself might be fooled. Not you, dear reader. Of course not you. But, you know, someone. Anyway, he wrote back to say he had taken all the suggestions and then took a shot at me by pointing out that the advice was a bit rich coming from someone who hadn’t bothered to fill out their own profile. I almost let it go, but I figured I would nip the whole thing in the bud right there. I told him I wasn’t looking for responses. Different goals call for different tactics.

I figured that would be it. He had gotten his helpful advice and I had clearly just told him I didn’t want responses. But no. Of course not. The tragedy continued. Next I got an email saying that was a fair enough assessment… and asking me about my hobbies. That’s right, the short whiny virgin was trying to chat me up. After I specifically said I was not interested in anything. I think I can actually smell the desperation from here.

I have not answered. I think I just will not. I have made the dating site a little bit better and perhaps taught a tragic little man a bit about how to write a profile. Or perhaps not. But I’m not sticking around to find out.
","Réunion en Plénière du collectif","2022-04-29","2022-05-01"

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