Dealing with Rejection: A Confidence Boost for Single Men
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What Do Women REALLY Want?
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
Without losing hand, he can (assuming Wednesday works out for him) convey that she is the only one he is *currently* screwing. He already plans to mysteriously “resolve some things” which she will interpret as dumping other girls he has been dating although those girls may actually be left with the impression that no bridges have been burned. That frees him from scrutiny for a while, but he is worried about preserving his options. He is contemplating lying as the only way to fool around with other women while keeping PCG.
I say: Gorb, it’s too early to be looking ahead to this. You’ll ruin the frame. You can be 100% honest about your previous relationships right now, and honesty is very powerful. There are two ways to keep a girl properly worried about losing you, but in this case only one of them works because she eclipses the other girls so much.
That is, “you might not turn out to be good enough for me and I might have to look for someone better eventually” is the right way, and “right now there are other girls who appeal to me despite the fact that I am with you so you’d better keep on your toes” is the wrong way. See the subtle difference? The wrong way, you say she has already been found to be imperfectly enthralling, so she gets mad and kicks you to the curb; the right way, she knows you have found nothing wrong with her so far but still feels the need to keep qualifying herself to you.
With a girl who was less sure about her value relative to other girls, both methods of instilling insecurity might work, but when she knows damn well there is nobody currently in your orbit who will outshine her, she simply won’t believe she has to worry about a specific current rival. Her worry has got to be eventually losing your interest, not that she’s currently inadequate.
I’ve noticed that some high quality, non-slutty girls are much more likely to forgive interest in a girl you knew before you met her, and poisonously angry if you develop a liking for someone new. They only partially understand men: they know men differ from women in not naturally ceasing to find a partner attractive once someone better has come along, but they want to be so much more than enough for you that you would lose interest in new women, which is unrealistic but necessary for them to not feel inadequate. The corollary is if she knows she is hotter than any other girl you’ve had, she’ll expect exclusivity.
With a slutty girl you can stay noncommittal, expecting that she’ll stick around for the O’s, but that ain’t happening for you with PCG.
Fortunately, you can still be honest if you deflect slightly, viz.:
Girl: You’re not going to mess around with other girls, right?
You: I’m not interested in them, I’m interested in you. (Note shift to present tense, and use of specific “them”rather than generic “other girls”, to show that they exist and it will be your choice not to pursue them.)
Girl: But you won’t do it, right? Because it would be over for us then.
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
Without losing hand, he can (assuming Wednesday works out for him) convey that she is the only one he is *currently* screwing. He already plans to mysteriously “resolve some things” which she will interpret as dumping other girls he has been dating although those girls may actually be left with the impression that no bridges have been burned. That frees him from scrutiny for a while, but he is worried about preserving his options. He is contemplating lying as the only way to fool around with other women while keeping PCG.
I say: Gorb, it’s too early to be looking ahead to this. You’ll ruin the frame. You can be 100% honest about your previous relationships right now, and honesty is very powerful. There are two ways to keep a girl properly worried about losing you, but in this case only one of them works because she eclipses the other girls so much.
That is, “you might not turn out to be good enough for me and I might have to look for someone better eventually” is the right way, and “right now there are other girls who appeal to me despite the fact that I am with you so you’d better keep on your toes” is the wrong way. See the subtle difference? The wrong way, you say she has already been found to be imperfectly enthralling, so she gets mad and kicks you to the curb; the right way, she knows you have found nothing wrong with her so far but still feels the need to keep qualifying herself to you.
With a girl who was less sure about her value relative to other girls, both methods of instilling insecurity might work, but when she knows damn well there is nobody currently in your orbit who will outshine her, she simply won’t believe she has to worry about a specific current rival. Her worry has got to be eventually losing your interest, not that she’s currently inadequate.
I’ve noticed that some high quality, non-slutty girls are much more likely to forgive interest in a girl you knew before you met her, and poisonously angry if you develop a liking for someone new. They only partially understand men: they know men differ from women in not naturally ceasing to find a partner attractive once someone better has come along, but they want to be so much more than enough for you that you would lose interest in new women, which is unrealistic but necessary for them to not feel inadequate. The corollary is if she knows she is hotter than any other girl you’ve had, she’ll expect exclusivity.
With a slutty girl you can stay noncommittal, expecting that she’ll stick around for the O’s, but that ain’t happening for you with PCG.
Fortunately, you can still be honest if you deflect slightly, viz.:
Girl: You’re not going to mess around with other girls, right?
You: I’m not interested in them, I’m interested in you. (Note shift to present tense, and use of specific “them”rather than generic “other girls”, to show that they exist and it will be your choice not to pursue them.)
Girl: But you won’t do it, right? Because it would be over for us then.
Type d'événement :
Réunion en Plénière du collectif
Début de l'événement :
23.10.2022
Fin de l'événement :
24.10.2022